Hey,
Just looking for some advice or similar experiences as I’m quite worried this evening. Long post! Thanks for reading!
DS has just gone into year 1 and since he started 3 weeks ago he has told me lots that school is boring and that it’s a lot of work and it makes him feel very tired. He’s also told me he has been told off for ‘daydreaming’ and that he is usually the last to finish his work. His teacher also made a comment last week when I picked him up that she had noticed he was in his own world alot (he came sauntering out looking like he’d just woken up!) Today I left a message on the school app asking his teacher to ring me and she did within 5 minutes. She told me he is very distracted in school and ‘in most if not all’ lessons after she has explained what needs to be done he asks again what to do as he hasn’t been able to listen. She said she spoke to his reception teachers about her concerns about him last week (but not me 
), and that he is quite slow at finishing work and she would describe his attention span as not being very long. She suggested a reward chart for listening and working quicker and said she will start it with him tomorrow.
We have then taken him to football (activities and a short and simplified match at the end) this evening and watched and DS was in a complete world of his own. Fidgeting and not listening at all, didn’t know when it was his turn and had to be prompted by his team mates who became frustrated with him. I heard one of them say “he’s in my class and he gets told off for not paying attention every single day!” Which has upset me a little!
DS has always been like this to a degree at home, but it has gotten much worse over the summer and now being back. I have been at my wits end over the summer and became very very stressed with him ignoring me as I had the whole time off work. School reports for reception and nursery were glowing - he was ahead on his reading, and where he needs to be for everything else at the end of reception - but then he did choose to play outside most of the time which he loves to do.
IMO he is an extremely bright child with a thirst for knowledge - he is constantly want to learn about the world and how it works. He asks questions constantly and has an extremely (freakishly!) good memory. He is extremely kind of affectionate (sometimes a little too much - likes to hold hands with his friends or kiss them on the cheek - which some don’t appreciate). He’s very loving towards me and his DF although he does have a temper and gets angry quickly recently. He can focus for longs periods of time on playing Lego or computer games, or even listening to a story (a chapter a night).
Do you think this sounds like ADHD? Or something else along those lines? I’m a little clueless on this subject but feel that his lack of focus isn’t something he is able to help atm. I understand the transition from EYFS to year 1 is huge, and of course all kids have been through so much the last 18 months. I just want to be able to support him.
Thanks if you made it this far!