I have DT's who will be 3 in November. They recently started at a preschool attached to a primary and seemed to have settled in well. Feedback positive from keyworker at end of each day. I am under no illusions , they are a handful and at times I struggle with their boisterousness and wilfulness. At home they frequently bicker between themselves and it often becomes physical but I have put it down to typical toddler/sibling behaviour. Anyway today I was spoken to at pick up by the head of the (entire) school. There was an incident where one of mine (they didn't know who , no adult witnessed it) hit another child. The child couldn't identify which one it was either and when questioned my two blamed each other! This seemed to be taken very seriously with both DT's being kept in the head's office for nearly an hour because they wouldn't say who had done it and didn't seem remorseful either. The head now wants a meeting with me as there are 'red flags' about their behaviour and started talking about assessments, psychologists etc.
I was gobsmacked to be honest. Of course the hitting was not acceptable and needed to be dealt with but they are still 2! and not able to express themselves well.
They have only been at the preschool 3 weeks and as I said no other incidents have been mentioned . Am I right to feel this is a heavy handed approach to two toddlers?