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[missbecks90]

Morning, I don't even know if I'm posting on the right section but I just wondered if anybody else had been in the same boat.

My 4 year old DD just started full time primary school (staggered entry into/half days) this week & she's super anxious & emotional. I manage to keep myself calm & reassure her the best as I can & she holds it together just wiping her tears but not making a fuss, but I can quite easily see how upset she is.
The teacher said she has a lovely day when she's there and she's excited to see me when I collect her but then immediately the questions start about why she does have to go back tomorrow & you can see the anxiety building...this continues to bedtime & again she ends up sobbing in floods of tears about the prospect of school. She gives no other answer about her upset other than she doesn't want to go & she wants to come to work with me...I'm trying my best to reassure her but it's heartbreaking & my anxiety is personally getting worse, something I've managed to deal with well for a while.

Family I've spoken to say it will get easier & I have to push on but they don't have to see her little face at drop off & bedtime.
I'm not sure in the point of the post I just think I needed to share really & see how others overcame the situation & maybe some positive outlooks.

Thanks ❤️

That does sound upsetting. Did she go to any childcare before school abs does she know anyone in her class?

Thanks for the reply.
Yes she went to nursery for 3 x 5hour days which she started just before she turned 3 but due to covid & nursery closures etc she didn't actually do a full year before she started school.
Today was her first full day & she cried this morning as usual but was happy when she came back out this afternoon, I hope things are on the up because I'm feeling emotionally drained lately. ❤️

Just be wary of sympathising too much. Sometimes they tell you what you want to hear.

What do you mean?

What do you mean?

Just that really, if you are anxious about then having a good day, abs think that they will not have been happy, children will often tell you the bad bits because they think that's what you want to here.

In no way am I saying that anything you've done has started her upset, but from now on, I'd try and keep it bright and breezy and concentrate on the good.

If you are worried about her at all, I'd talk to the teacher. Children often say things like they had nobody to play with to their parents but when you talk to the teacher they've spent all lunchtime racing around and having a great time.

Hope it was a little better this morning? My dd is the same - first drop off at reception today and lots of tears, very anxious. We also had this during the last term of nursery last year so it was expected! Very difficult, and I don't know the answer but wanted to sympathise. We've tried everything to help without success, I'm beginning to wonder if we should just stop trying, talk about the positives and make as little as possible of the rest.

@DominicRaabsTravelAgent

What do you mean?

Just that really, if you are anxious about then having a good day, abs think that they will not have been happy, children will often tell you the bad bits because they think that's what you want to here.

In no way am I saying that anything you've done has started her upset, but from now on, I'd try and keep it bright and breezy and concentrate on the good.

If you are worried about her at all, I'd talk to the teacher. Children often say things like they had nobody to play with to their parents but when you talk to the teacher they've spent all lunchtime racing around and having a great time.

Ah I'm with you, yeah I completely understand and I think your right I felt a little more relaxed this morning & we had no tears thank god!