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onthespot · 02/12/2007 08:23

I was asked by my DD's friend (aged 5)

It is so nice and quiet here - she said (they had been giggling and shouting all afternoon!!) My dad shouts all the time and I dont like it when he shouts.

We made christmas decorations in the afternoon too, I asked if she would like to take hers home, she said well i would love to but I think dad wouldnt let me put them up, he never lets me do anything like this.

She is a very chatty kid and loves to come and talk to me infact while I was cooking tea she came into the kitchen and just sat and talked, DD kept coming in to ask her to come and play but she just wanted to chat.

At the time I was a little worried, but now I hav ticked and ticked about it and didnt sleep very well thinking about it. Her dad seemed ok when I dropped her off but once shewas back in her house and I was talkng to her dad on the doorstep she was silent again as was her older sister, there was no chatty little girl.............I know this is just a snapshot of an afternoon but what would you make of it???

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MrsSlocomb · 02/12/2007 08:36

I wouldn't read too much into it. My children are always going on about how it is much better in so and so's house.

They also stretch the truth enormously to suit their ends.

And if he shouts and doesn't let her put up decorations? It's
hardly a crime. And tbh it has absolutely nothing to do with you or anyone else.

Magicmayhem · 02/12/2007 08:41

Where's there mum? if he's on his own maybe he's not coping that well?

OverMyDeadStuffedTurkey · 02/12/2007 08:43

I'd agree with MrsSlocomb not to read too much into it really, kids do stretch the truth sometimes.

Shouting and not letting them hang decorations up isn't abuse or neglect in itself, although in the eyes of a little girl it can seem like her dad is really horrible sometimes, or "not fair".

I can see why you are worried though, but I wouldn't make too much of it tbh.

luckyleelj · 04/12/2007 09:20

I have just read the theds on this.... and I cant believe what I've just read!!!
"tbh its nothing to do with you"
no wonder we live in the world we do with atitudes like that.....
I think it's commendable for someone to reach out think of someone else rather than yourseves.
It's nice to know there are people out there who look out for others.
I agree children strech what they mean but they wouldnt have to if they had no reason too...
Again yes people cope in different ways, but a child should be allowed to explore, play and create as much as they want to.
I cant suggest what you should do or how to tackel this situation as you dont know all the facts. All I can say is keep being the thoughtful caring person that you are. She will come to you if she needs anything as you are a listener and she wont forget that.

Brandnewchristmaspyjamasgirl · 04/12/2007 09:33

I wouldn't worry about it tbh remember when you were a kid youir friends houses always seemed better than your own.

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