Adult children

[Anon247]

My daughter is 21 years old and still has no logic whatsoever. Sometimes I query whether I should be worried and sometimes I feel it is normal.
Today (home from uni), she asked me to rearrange my next month's diary so that I could give her a lift to an event. I asked whether she has checked her diary to see if she would have gone back to uni by then and she said she hadn't. After checking, she realised that she would have returned to uni.
What stories do you have in respect of your adult child? Is this lack of logic normal?

My son has really been hit by the pandemic. He’s 24 and a talented performer dancer but obviously wasn’t able to work throughout, picking up zero hours manual work where he could, and things are so slowly moving in the right direction. The saddest thing is that his long term childhood girlfriend has called things a day. They’ve both struggled with where to live permanently, what to do after uni, no graduation, parents opposite ends of country etc, dreams seemingly ending. He’s moved back home now from their shared flat. He’s sweet, funny and helpful. So talented. And it’s mutual because they are both in flux. But the thing I’ve come to realise over the past couple of months is that I miss her so much. I always thought they were way too young to settle down and probably showed that tbh. But they loved and laughed hard he adored her and I thought it was genuinely mutual. I’m being so selfish because we actually had so much in common and I loved having her around. I keep putting my foot in it by saying things about her. I just want him happy again and It’s so hard seeing him so stuck. But I’m badly burying my sadness. She’s asked for no contact. She has a lovely family and strong support network. There’s lots of love here. Gosh parenting never ends. I long for simple times of teething and why aren’t they walking yet! His brothers and sister are pulling out the stops. But I wish I didn’t have to admit on here (for my first time usually read your posts) that I feel like I lost a daughter. I did reach out. She didn’t respond. My son says I must respect that. Ouch. I worry about her but I know it’s not my job to. Don’t think I’m not focussed on my son 100%. Just can’t tell anyone this and not sure how to stop feeling this way. My best friend died 2 years ago and I’m thinking about her a lot because this feels lije grief and fear.

@Anon247 I think it is, well judging from how my DH behaves...

@Adella73 it sounds as if both you abs your DS have been through an incredibly hard couple of years. I just can't imagine losing my BF