3yo is mean to lil bro

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My eldest is 3 years and 5 months. Youngest has just turned 1. Youngest has been walking for a month and ever since thrn my eldest keeps pushing him down. Being mean to him. We constantly tell him off. He doesn't say anything cos he's not speaking much yet but he does understand. Will it get better with time? Or am I doomed lol

Anyone

?? Anyone around

Sibling rivalry is very common

Is the younger one annoying the older one by doing things like interfering with his play? In which case having the older one play on a table or different room might help?

My almost 3 year old is like this on and off with his 1 year old brother. It does seem to be jealousy and frustration whe he does it, especially if he is hungry or tired and when his brother is getting in the way of his playing. We just tell him off and then redirect. He's been far better about it recently but he goe worse when the baby started crawling and I expect he will get else again when he starts walking.

Is your 3 year old able to express how he feels? We had a spell of this with my two and I told the older one to say “Mummy can you move him away?” If she was feeling annoyed. And if possible then I would. I think it depends if your older son is just annoyed then it’s probably quite a normal reaction BUT if it’s just mean for the sake of being mean then maybe it’s worth being a little stricter. It’s so difficult though.

@beans1992 he can express himself the older one but not with words as he's slow speaking altho getting there. Sometimes he's mean out of frustration but sometimes for no reason at all

It's world war 3 this evening which made me think to revisit this thread. Often my older son is just mean to baby for no reason it's so horrible to see and what makes it worse is older one is mostly so adorable then I see this horrible side to him 🤦‍♀️

My 3 year old does this too. Yesterday he stood on his brother's hand, just to be horrid. He snatches his toys and pushes him over etc. He also has some lovely moments too. I think it's normal. I've started not saying anything and just putting three year old on stairs. It seems to work as he hates being on the stairs. I think it is normal behaviou, but that doesn't mean it should be ignored. The best thing is now my 1.5 year old has learnt how to wind his older brother up.