7 year old acting up in front of friends

[Piplette]

My 7 year old is a really well behaved girl in general. She isn't rude, does as she's asked etc BUT I've noticed when she's in the company of friends at play dates for example she can be so obnoxious.

She becomes loud, over excited, boastful i.e. my handstands are better than yours, I'm the best at x/y/z. I can see her friends aren't happy with this behaviour although they don't comment and try to ignore it.

I was similar as a child and it led, unsurprisingly, to me not being overly popular or having many friends.

I'm keen to avoid my daughter having a similarly lonely childhood but I'm also mindful of not effecting her confidence or self esteem.

Is there anything I can do to make her more aware of and the affect its having?

DM always used to say, loudly
“Stop showing off in front of your friends” that always put a stop to it 😂

Could you just take her aside and quietly tell her that it’s not kind to tell her friends they aren’t as good as her and they are all doing really well?

Yes I will speak to her but just trying to be mindful not to dent her confidence as she's actually quite shy and I think this is a bit of a front she puts on in company.

Talk to her when she's not with them. Ask her 'what's more important being the best at xyz or having friends?' Explain that it's absolutely fine to be proud of things and confident but often people find it annoying and upset if somebody is showing off and putting them down. Offer to come up with a code word/phrase that you can say to her on playdates which lets her know if she's getting a bit much? Otherwise though I wouldn't do any more than gentle reminders whilst around others or you might just knock her confidence x