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Very clingy 2 yo

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Lankyboxmum · 19/08/2021 18:31

My little boy has just turned two, and I obviously expect some clinginess but my lo seems to be going overboard to the point I'm concerned.

He won't leave my knee when we're somewhere like soft play. He won't even let his grandparents or any other adult apart from me or his dad hold him or he will scream. If he sees any friends or family come into the house, or we go to theirs, he will cling to me and not let go the whole visit. It's getting to the point he's doing it at home too, he's either sitting on my knee or if I move to do something I need to carry him around with me or he just walks around being me crying and shouting 'mammy'. He goes to bed with his arms wrapped around my neck. I've tried since he was born to create a secure attachment- I've never left him to cry and he gets lots of playtime and cuddles with me.

I just can't seem to move an inch away at all.

He has been like this since around 9 month.

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BunnyRuddington · 20/08/2021 09:35

That does sound like quite extreme separation anxiety abs you have my total sympathy.

How is the rest of his development like his speech?

Lankyboxmum · 20/08/2021 10:21

His speech is a bit behind, although I've put it down to lockdown tbh. He only uses single words that he repeats after us and a handful of words he already knows. The rest of his development is fine - although he didn't walk until 17 months but as soon as he caught on he was away. He does have two siblings with ASD so that's always at the back of my mind. It's hard to know whether I'm being paranoid because of already having two with ASD.
He does show interest in things, make eye contact, point etc unlike my others though.

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BunnyRuddington · 20/08/2021 10:27

If he's that clingy and you already have two with ASD, I don't think you're being unreasonable to consider ASD.

Have you done the MChat Testto see what his risk is?

I'd also have a look at this progress checker from
ICan to see if he needs any help with his speech Thanks

Lankyboxmum · 20/08/2021 10:35

He's a 'medium risk, I've done the ages and stages myself and he's in the grey area for speech, everything else is fine.
Maybe best to give HV a call, haven't had any contact throughout lockdown.

Was going to wait until he started nursery this September to see if it helped, but his taster sessions aren't going great so maybe something I need to put on hold.

Thank you for your help Flowers

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BunnyRuddington · 20/08/2021 17:04

Can they defer Nursery until Christmas and hopefully get him some SLT before then?

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