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16mo indifferent to me when I finish work

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KL92xxxx · 11/08/2021 22:36

I’m currently working full time hours condensed into four days, so I’m working 10 hour days which are a slog to say the least. I see my little boy in the morning for 1hr ish before we drop him off at either his grandparents or nursery and then every night bar one I’m there for teatime and I do bedtime every single night. And he sleeps next to me virtually all night! The three days we’re off we don’t stop and have a great time.

However on the four days he is at grandparents/nursery, if I pick him up he is totally indifferent to me, doesn’t seem excited, he just looks at me and might babble and then just carry on with whatever he was doing. Yesterday he actually shook his head when he saw me :( after about half an hour he came round.

I feel so guilty that he’s forgetting who I am or thinks I’ve abandoned him or something. He absolutely loves grandparents/nursery and has come on in leaps and bounds since we started this routine, but I can’t help but feel like I’m ruining our bond especially with his reaction to seeing me now.

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Opalfeet · 12/08/2021 22:41

Mine did similar, he just wasn't bothered. He still acts like he is all cool when I pick him up from nursery at 3.5.

Enjoy it whilst you can, he now wonders around following me saying mummy mummy all day. Okay, that's a slight exaggeration, but it certainly feels like it sometimes

PenguinEgg · 14/08/2021 17:33

My friend's 3yo is like this. She gives her mum evils for coming to ruin the fun nursery playtime by picking her up. They are very close otherwise. Maybe he's having a lovely time and for him pick up just means it's nearly bedtime. It's good if he's completely taking you for granted and was expecting you to arrive at some point he might just not be particularly emotionally expressive by nature.

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