Help Please! 6 year old wrecking ball

[Pyro29]

Hello all

So I really need help:
My 6 year old girl is terribly destructive. If this had just started when her brother got born I would understand-but this has been going on for far longer than this- I am at whit's end here, she has been breaking everything from my kitchen bowls up to technology like our cellphones. I cannot and will not stand for this anymore!
We had to take her out of school due to financial strain brought on by Covid19 and this was when the destruction escalated.

As far as disciplining her we absolutely find spanking abhorrent, so we've tried time-out (doesn't work). i am absolutely embarrassed even admitting to this but it has escalated to shouting.
I need advice to move away from the idea of spanking to a better form of discipline so she can one day be the wonderful woman that I believe she will be

I feel like I am failing her as a mother, I am failing badly, but truthfully- I need help to save us our bond as a family.

I apologize for the tone of this post but I am terribly saddened and lost

Thank you in advance

By "financial strain" I assume you mean school fees? Why haven't you sent her to a state school??

Is she not in school at all?

Secondly, if you think she's got something else going on, you need to get an assessment...for ADHD or similar.

If she is neuro typical but just clumsy then Sarah Ockwell Smith does a great book on gentle discipline and there's another book called How to talk so little kids listen which is also pretty good.

But sounds like a chat with your GP is a good idea if you feel the clumsy- Ness is really beyond normal

My apologies I should clear up a couple of things:
We do not live in the UK but in South Africa-I believe mumsnet is the best so asked here [Smile]
By financial strain I meant that some businesses took advantage of the pandemic and pushed their prices up.
In our area we do not have state provided pre-grade one schools, honestly we've looked. The school she was attending was a private pre-primary hosted on public school property half the price of other schools here,

Thank you for the book suggestion will try find that generally just pretty stubborn-wont listen to us. it drives us up the walls.
it"s a case of "baby don't do that!" and she does it anyway!