I am finding my youngest son increasingly hard to handle. He has Aspergers, but so do two of my other kids and I can't see that it's behind his behaviour. Happy to be corrected. It's not just me, his twin sister and my 14yo are also finding him really hard work as he is disruptive.
Example 1: Serving up dinner, he wanted to improve the gravy (fussy about gravy). I asked him to sit down at the table as I was taking lots of plates through etc. He stormed off shouting. He came back after 10 mins, I suggested he'd need to heat his meal. Stormed off. Tried to discuss after dinner. Screamed at me to shut the f up.
Example 2: Came back from my shower to find him watching tv (9am). Asked him to turn it off and get dressed. He didn't. Said we were out of milk. I said I'd give him money to go buy some (he's gone to the shop many times). Screamed at me "you're the parent"...stormed off. Slammed several doors.
This is just in 12 hours. I expect there will be more of this today. He came back from his dad's house yesterday at 5. He is like this every time. He doesn't behave like this there.
It got so bad my other kids asked to meet with me about it. They don't want to eat with him, go out with him. It's like when he was a toddler. But he's 13 next month. He functions well at school, does brilliantly, can behave beautifully at times and be a wonderful helpful sweet kid. If I am crying or having a panic attack or feeling like a shit parent - it's usually linked to him. 