Non hand holding, no hugs or kissy 2yo

[itscomplicatedlife]

Perhaps normal toddler behaviour around age 2 but I suspect it could be her personality but I am feeling so down that our daughter isn't very loving, we try to hug, kiss and hold her hand but she is fiercely independent and always has been which tbh is fine but I feel quite gutted also. We're quite the opposite in personality. She is like my mum, very assertive, not huggy or kissy and I am quite the opposite as never has this from my mum, it appears I've given birth to another opposite abs this seems to be a theme in the family. She also will not hold my hand crossing roads so have to wrist hold or carry her then she's gone, just feeling deflated when I see so many people I know with such smily, cuddly girls and mine is the total opposite to me. Just taking me some time to process, how do I accept this, I don't have a choice but it's still quite sort of sad for me to accept, feeling quite down about it today

I understand your frustration, but as you say she's her own person. Though I would put her on reins when out with her UNLESS she holds your hand or goes in the buggy. Discuss safety with her and take them with you when you go out so she understands WHY.

I wouldn't force the kisses and cuddles either (our DD1 was ,and still is as an adult, a cool child) I remember the first time she actually cuddled ME as if it was yesterday. !! She does love us but not great with the physicality of it all!!

@ppeatfruit

She's very much like my mum, as a child I felt quite unloved and my daughter looks to be turning out the same, just feels so unfair as hoped so much for a cuddly child. I don't force it upon her at all its just her way and I just have to find a way to accept this but yes the reigns we have and will have to break out as she just refused to hold my hand crossing roads etc and is a bit of a bolter, thanks for the reply just felt really really down about it x x

Holding hands when crossing the rod is a non-negotiable. I'd offer the choice of hands or buggy/carry/reins even if it pissed her off. Most kids would pick holding hands for a bit but she'll probably test you at the beginning to see if you mean it.

I have 3 kids and only 1 was cuddly but he's currently 14 years old and would never consider hugging me now.

@TotorosCatBus yes I'm going have to break out the reins again or use that buggy too. Just see so many cuddly girls but this ones too cool for that already! 🙈🤦‍♀️ x x

I have 3 children too, I remember how difficult it was trying to make them ALL feel loved. Esp. with the baby needing different attention of course. I may have tried to treat them all equally because he sometimes says he felt unloved, which is not true. But he is the most loving adult of them .

@ppeatfruit Awww I can imagine yes that must be hard sharing the love around them all, you can only try & I'm sure they all know their mum loves them very much too 💗

Thanks Itscomplicated Our neighbours have 7 children AAaaah