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Ds2 needs your help - how NOT to be vicitm of bullying. Tips?

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shimmy · 25/11/2007 16:30

Ds2 is having a hard time with a couple of x good friends who are pushing him around and being very mean. I've witnessed this myself so I know he's not over-reacting. Problem is he is very quiet and shy and just meekly lets them do it. He was hysterical at the suggestion that I have a word with teacher or parents. He has begged to be allowed to deal with it himself and I do feel it's better for his self esteem if he is able to handle it without my interference. (But I will be in school like a shot if nothing improves fast,) We've discussed being assertive, practised role play of him standing up for himself when pushed about.

Any other ideas for helping quiet kids stand up for themselves without being aggressive?

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perpetualworrier · 25/11/2007 16:46

Can't really help I'm afraid, but would be very interested in any suggestions as my DS1 is similar. Admirable in that he never hits back, but sometimes I wish he would just a bit.

Mine is 6 and the school have been very supportive and, fingers crossed, things are much better. Your DS sounds older ?

moonmother · 25/11/2007 16:50

Hi there,sorry to hear about your son's bullying problem,as it happens my Dd and I have just been trawling the web looking for anti-bullying tips for her homework.
This site seems to be very good and informative

www.bullying.co.uk/pupils/index.aspx

theres a load of good sites out we found on google we just searched for anti-bullying.

Hope it helps and I hope both of you are able to stop this in it's tracks.

frogs · 25/11/2007 16:52

Bullies2Buddies is a good site that someone recommended a while ago when my 7yo ds was having a spot of trouble with some bigger, cooler boys in his class.

Exactly as you suggest, it has strategies for teaching children to respond in ways that will make them a less likely target for bullying, which is quite empowering.

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