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My 1 year old is so clingy!!! Am I handling it right??

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Jojay · 24/11/2007 19:09

My DS ( 1 today - Happy Birthday BabyJay!!) is going through a really clingy phase.

DH took him to Scotland for a week without me a few weeks ago, and I think that's what kicked it off, as he hasn't been his usual cheery self since then.

He's had a horrid bout of sickness and diarrhoea too, and has also decided he doesn't want a bottle or a dummy any more, even though he used to get a lot of comfort from them. So there's been quite a lot going on.

He's getting more difficult to settle at night. He's always been good to put to bed - we could put him in the cot awake, leave the room and leave him to it. Now though, he goes nuts if we leave the room, so for the time being, we're staying in there until he's asleep, not doing anything but just sitting on a chair.

He's very clingy in the day too, hanging onto my leg if I'm not directly paying him attention. In strange places ( other peoples houses etc) he won't leave my side, and goes loopy if I go to the loo or something.

At the moment, I'm just going with it, giving him as much attention and reassurance as I can without making a big deal of it.

Do you think this is the right thing to do??

It is just a phase and will it pass?

Thanks in advance for your opinions.

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moondog · 24/11/2007 19:12

Yes,soinds like just what he needs-his mother's unconditional love.
Happy Birthday to him!

mintchips · 24/11/2007 19:17

Sounds like your doing exactly the right thing.

It's very hard work but it will pass, just be guided by what your lo needs.

Katiekin · 24/11/2007 19:22

They go through a phase of separation anxiety at about that age so it may be coincidence that it was near the Scottish trip. Sounds like you are doing the right things though.

fizzbuzz · 24/11/2007 19:30

Yes, I think it will pass, apart from night settling thing.

Think you might have to gently re-introduce that when your lo feels more secure. ( I speak from the bitter experinence of being held captive in dd's bedroom for hours every evening, until we bit the bullet)

But don't do anything until he has stopped being clingy

Jojay · 24/11/2007 21:56

Thanks for your advice everyone. It was my gut reaction to just go with it, but as a first timer at this parenting lark, you start to imagine that you're being a soft touch etc etc.

Must remember to trust my own judgement more often!!

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