Is it autism or visual stimming only?

[Tinaaa24]

Hi my english is very weak so please excuse my grammee/spellings. My son is 25 months and he has some odd behaviour.

1. He looks out from corner of his eye while walking very close to wall/kitchen counter tops/table/ garden fence. He recently started doing it a lot. And its killing me.

1. There was a delay in speech . He had no words up till 20 months now all of sudden speaks around 50 words. He uses them apropriately like ‘eat all done’ when he is done eating, ‘outside’ and points at the main door if he wants go outside. Animal noises, 3-4 colors , 1-13 numbers and etc

1. He does not try new food.

1. Points at stuff he wants or wants to show me.

1. Sleeps all night.

1. Loves spining or rolling objects. Hardly plays with cars usual way. He loves to spin car weels to look at them very closely. Spends hours staring at washing machine drum spin.

1. Loves to hug give kisses.

1. Have not played with kids much during pademic. Only took him to cousin twice now n he plays running and chAsing game with 5 year old but strangly gets scared of 1 year old cousin (toddler) .

1. Waves hi and bye at apropriate times

10. Very good eye contact.

11. Understands some of my directions. ‘Pick it up’ and ‘get up’ ‘dry your mouth’

12. Mimicks everything.

13. Have not seen him imaginative play. But i feed his toy duck he would do it. But not byhim self. Altho i saw him wash dishes like i do without water with just spoon and bowl dont know if its same.

So my main corncern is him tilting his head and eyes side way and walking very close wall etc all the time. And looking at spinning things. Is stimming always related to autism? . Has anyone else’s child did this? Did they ever stop doing it?

I've only know 2 children do either if these things and they both now have a diagnosis for ASD.

Has anyone suggested doing the MChat test? It should give you his risk of having ASD

Hi @BunnyRuddington thank you for replying. Do you know what i can do to help him do it less so he can interact with others? I am very new to this and have no idea if this is it or it will get worst.

Can he loose the skills he has learnt so far in near years?

I have taken mchat test. But because he is fine in all other areas he is scoring very low.

I hahe health visitor coming for his 2 year olds check in 2 weeks.

I've no idea if he'll lose those skills sorry, only a Paediatrician is going to be tell you that one.

I would film him doing those things though so that you can show the HV when you see her for the check.

I'd also do this progress checker from Talking Point. It should tell you if he needs some help with his speech

hi my son is 22 months old and he has some similar behaviour as well. specially they calls -side eyes glacing- everytime he does i am trying to change his mind.

I think ask for gp to referral so they can check him as well. in this country this things moves so slowly so you dont know when you will get appointment . just share your worries with doctor.

and trying to look bright side. you say he can do lots of things trying to enjoy with him. i made myself so upset before now i am regretting.

@BunnyRuddington thank you so much means a lot 👍🏼

@snoobydoo does he still do it? Have you spoken to anybody about this? Just really desperate about this. I am so upset by this i cry everyday.

Yes gp said first you need to have health visitor and if they think then they can refer you forward.

I also try to distract him but he gets on it as soon as i have to cook or clean.

From experience with my elder I wouldn't say that there was anything to worry about. My son had a lot of these traits and he recently went to finally get assessed and they said he had nothing. I think the issues come go the behaviours you're most worried about continue.

Sorry last bit again: I think the issue comes up if the behaviours continue.

@Hirewiredays thank you that gives me lot of strength, did he do similer side way glance while walking close to wall/fences etc? Sorry i am asking because this is what i am most worried about. At what age did he stop?

Hi, my boy didn't do that but from reading your positives and having just been to a psychiatrist I can tell that a lot of positives are the same as my son. I think from talking to the psychiatrist that a lot of kids can have some traits but still not be ASD. When he's older can you use different strategies to stop this. For example, my boy would make silly noises and finally he just stopped one day when he was three. My boy had poor language skills, mimicking skills and poor eye contact. He's really caught up and we are relentless with expectations. I was told my boy wasn't autistic because: he came to tell me he was hurt, he wanted to engage with me, cuddled me, was fine with different food textures and could have his routine disrupted and wasn't upset about being in new situations. What I would recommend is pursue getting as much help and assessments from the specialist because it will put you at ease with whatever the diagnosis.

All your positives out way anything for me for example you say he looks sideways but then you say that he has good eye contact so may with time and positive reinforcement he will stop this.

OP he sounds completely normal (apart from the eye thing).

Have you had his eyes checked at all? He may have some double vision which his making it easier to look out of the corner of his eye. It may just be a current habit.

I'd ring your local independent optician and ask if they see 2 year olds - I'm happy with babies upwards, but some don't have the experience - but they will recommend someone who can. It's completely free.

@Hirewiredays thank you so much, yes postivies are good but i feel what if he regress from here .. i cant sleep these days

@underneaththeash thank you i will try to find out if they can check his vision this early. The thing is he looks at me stright and all but he likes to only do this with lines and anything stright in line. Like tables, walls or anything that has edge.

I am worried to death at this point.

OP you're worrying far too much. If he is autistic then it sounds like he is going to be at the high functioning end of the spectrum like my DS and it's very difficult to diagnose at this age (mine wasn't diagnosed until almost secondary school). Mine did not regress, has done really well at school and is predicted top grades in every subject for gcse, he's a complete introvert which means I don't have to worry about him going to parties/getting drunk/getting someone pregnant but he's happy, well behaved and doing well.

If it does turn out that your ds has asd then there's nothing you can do to change that so why not just enjoy him, encourage him and have fun with him and just see what happens. He could have appeared perfectly 'normal' and then regressed so there's no point worrying about something that could happen to any child. Let him be him, don't cry about it, be positive. If it does turn out he is on the spectrum it is not the end of the world.

Honestly he sounds completely normal. My DS used to do the looking out the corner of his eye thing. He also said no words until 2 years and 2 months. Now at 2.5 he talks in full sentences.

@Moorelewis
Hi thank you, did your son ever stopped doing looking out of corner thing? Mine still does it 🥲

Hi can I know whether u have done any assessment on this because my son does this a lot too and it’s worrying.

Hi, just wondering is your son does that still? Thabks

Hi, just wondering is your son does that still? Thanks

Hi, does ur son still do the walkingn and watching close to wall. Would like to know what did u do regarding it. Thabks