Hi,
I've posed about DD(4) before and I'm just at a loss as how to parent her at the moment. I feel like an absolute crap mum.
She is a lovely little girl (most of the time) really polite, well behaved, meeting all her milestones, shares, plays nicely with DD(2) loving.
But every night we are having this complete and utter meltdown from her where she just doesn't seem to care about anyone or anything and we have tried everything.
We have a bedtime routine of bath, story, cuddle and sleep. But every night she is refusing sleep and messing around, we were advised my HV to just ignore and repeat 'close your eyes, go to sleep' we have tried changing bed times in case to early for her but she is then completely shattered the next day.
After repeating go to sleep close your eyes, she starts to get frustrated with us, 'I don't like you', ' j want a new mummy / daddy' 'you are horrible' etc. We'll continue with go to sleep etc. Then it escalates further to hitting, scratching, screaming etc. Until about an hour after she will finally go to sleep.
We've tried talking to her before / in the morning about how her behaviour effects people, talked about feelings, reading books etc. But she just doesn't seem to care at all.
Sorry this post is a bit garbled I'm on 2/4 hours sleep a night as DD2 also not sleeping due to ongoing issues with allergies. Just feel like such a rubbish mum.
Can anyone offer any advice?