Toddlers

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I don't even know where to begin. I thought DD1 was hard as a baby. Well now she's just about to turn 2

Is it normal for toddlers to whine/whinge/cry so much?

Do all kids do this..
me: do you want a drink?
DD: no
Me: okay
DD: (crying) drink. Drink. I want a drink
Me: okay, here's a drink.
DD: no I don't want a drink. (Cry's, thrashes around.
Me: okay (takes drink away).
DD: (screaming) drink drink drink

You could replace drink with food/toy/etc

Her speech and understanding is way ahead for her age (everyone we know has said this).

Some days I'm losing my mind the amount she cries. I've no idea how to deal with it. When will this get easier?!

I could have written this myself!! My daughter is two next week and she is sooooo much hard work.
She says no to everything... I even put the TV on for her as a treat (she rarely watches it) and after 5 minutes she was complaining 😔

My 2yo is so much more confident than my 4yo. He is more adventurous and I think its coz he's got a 4yo to play with. I've noticed there is a gap between what he says and what he feels. I can empathise with this though, as I comfort eat - stressful day at work and then before I recognise the feeling - I've ate cake and chocolate.

i think when he asks for a toy then cries he doesn't want that toy - he is dealing with some sort of emotion and doesn't know what to do with it. e.g. unconsciously thinks a toy will fix it but it doesn't.

I've started asking how he's feeling and then asking what will help e.g. cuddle.

A book that helped me think about my 2yo behaviours is Help your child deal with stress and thrive by Dr Stuart Shanker

raising2children.com/book-review-on-help-your-child-deal-with-stress-and-thrive/

Mine is 3 and has a good vocabulary and still does this lol. Actual conversation this am ... 'do you want a cheese sandwhich?' 'No I want bread and butter with cheese on the side'.... I do exactly this and she looks indignantly at the bread and butter and says 'you didn't put any cheese in this'. I then ask her 'well if I put cheese in it what would it be?' And she says 'a cheese sandwhich' so she totally understands. It's totally normal but infuriating lol x

My LO is 20 months now and parenting has never been harder! Screams and cries for every little thing and has become so demanding and an absolute terror.basically just screams to get his way. Most days I cry alone cos it’s just all become too much for me. Refuses to nap and takes me a lot of effort to make him sleep. He was the sweetest calmest baby and I feel like this is just a product of terrible parenting. Is this normal?

My first born is a whinger...he's 3.5 and he still whinges. The last two days he's had a cold and has been ramped up. My second is 18 months and is such a chilled boy, I can't even imagine him ever whingeing. Though he does have the usual 18 month freakouts. 🤣

My daughter has been late developing in all milestones, she has had a physiotherapist since 6 months as she wasn't sitting unaided, that came about 9 months then she didn't seem like she would crawl but started that at about 11 months she's now almost 19 months and isn't walking. The physio (she is still with her) said she has bendy ankles (side to side) so feels uneasy on her feet. She has done a few steps and walks holding onto something and the cruising around the furniture but she doesn't seem to have very much balance. Her talking is also a little behind, she says mama dada hiya and max occasionally (the dog) she communicates and points and babbles laughs and giggles and understands things we say like bath milk and food so she knows what we mean. I'm just starting to think there may be something wrong with her, any advice? X

Sorry I thought I was creating a new post!

Wow seems a bit overkill to have physio at 6 months because not sitting unaided. I think a lot of babies at that age will be supported by highchair but still not sitting fully. My first didn't sit at that age. His talking wouldn't be of particular concern I don't think. Usually ther won't refer to salt until 2. I'm not sure about what physio says about feet, I have no experience of that. My friends child didn't start walking until just before 2, he's absolutely normal in terms of development etc.

To be honest I thought that too my HV I wasn't too keen on, she also referred her to an eye specialist as she thought one of them was looking in (I couldn't see it myself) eye specialist said there was absolutely nothing wrong with her and wondered why we were there! Not even seen the HV since daughter was 8 months but not bothered as I don't think she's very good!
Thanks for your response, maybe I'm just panicking! X

My little boy looked like that for a while...seems to have straightened out now. Maybe the HV is just a bit over conscientious