Struggling with behaviour

[Tibby26]

I’m struggling with my 5 YO son not doing what he’s told. Every morning is a battle with him to get him to get dressed and eat breakfast and usually ends with me screaming at him and him going to school hungry as he’s hasn’t eaten his breakfast. I’ve tried everything but nothing seems to work. I lost my shit this morning and told him that he would have to find a new family as I can’t cope with his behaviour any more. Now I’m feeling like the worst mother/person ever as I should be able to deal with my own child, plus I know there are probably so many parents out there with much more serious issues with their kids than this. It’s making me not want to go home tonight. Any suggestions that I might not have tried much appreciated, thanks

I realise you are upset with him and at your wits end but saying such awful things to him will only make him more avoidant. Tell him twice that he needs to get dressed and if he doesn't listen then do it for him. Breakfast is on the table for a certain time. He eats it then or goes hungry til lunch time. Remind him that he's chosen not to eat but don't rub it in or get cross at him. It's hard but you just have to take no crap and let them take no liberties when they're this kindof personality. It's hard I know but getting stressed and then them still getting their own way is a surefire way to ensure they will keep doing it