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4 month old baby still cries a lot

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Mia19992 · 27/05/2021 21:47

Hi, I don't post on these things often but I really feel like I just need a little bit of moral support at the minute.
I have a beautiful 4 month old daughter whom I ADORE! However she still cries alot. I mean she goes about three hours between bottles and after an hour of being constantly entertained she cries.
She hates being in her car seat and her Pram, we changed her to the upright Pram this month as she seemed to get on a little better in it. I try so hard to entertain her, I sing, we read, we go for walks (which she cries for most of) we do sensory play, we go to groups, we have playmat time, tummy time.
I constantly worry that there's something wrong, that she's in pain and she can't tell me. I think she's teething or her teeth are forming, as she constantly has her hands in her mouth and bites down hard on them, she dribbles and her cheeks go red.
She also struggles to go to others, which is obviously quite exhausting for me as my partner works 6 out of 7 days a week most of the time. She is okay with me and my partner but cries instantly if she goes to others including our family. Sometimes when she cries it's like a shriek and I just can't tell why.
I get upset quite a bit at the minute a si just feel like a rubbish mum and that I must be doing something wrong because she isn't happy.
3 of my friends had babies at around the same time as me and all of them have such contented babies, which in all honesty is hard for me. Me and my partner have booked to go for a meal with her on Saturday with our LO and I already feel nervous that she's going to cry the whole time.
I've posted on apps like peanut before and I never really get a response which definitely makes me feel like I'm the only person going through this. 😢
Is it normal for a 4 month old to still cry like a newborn?
I just need to know if there's anyone that has experienced any of this because I feel quite alone in it all at the minute.

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Somethingvague · 28/05/2021 09:41

My first was like this. In his case it got better with each milestone - a big change after 6 months when he could sit up unsupported, then better still after crawling. Some just hate being babies. Things that did help:

  • dummy
  • avoid overtiredness. He had a very low tiredness tolerance and couldn't happily stay awake for 2 hours until after 6 months. He was probably on about 1.5 hour wake time at this age and having 4 naps a day.

Also consider dairy. This didn't make a difference for us but I know of others who had unsettled little ones and cutting out dairy/getting dairy free formula apparently made a big difference.

Stay strong. It gets better. I really struggled at this age and like you felt I must be doing things wrong. Since having another one, who has such a different temperament from birth, I know that's not the case.

APmum11 · 30/05/2021 12:08

Four month sleep regression? My LO was a fairly content little thing until about a week and half ago, from which time she’s been fighting naps and then getting very cranky (my only saving grace is she sleeps if we go on a walk or drive). I am feeling pretty meh at the moment about it all too, but holding on to that six month stage when everyone says it gets better!

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