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2.5 year old separation anxiety

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SarahDay1990 · 17/05/2021 20:21

My LO has recently been suffering with a bad case of separation anxiety. She goes to nursery twice a week and normally runs through the door excited but the last week She’s been screaming and clinging to me - it’s just heartbreaking. I’m assured she settles quickly when I leave but I can’t shake the feeling all day that I left her so upset. Also at bedtime she only wants me to do bath and stories. I’ve had to work the last few nights and my OH said she literally screamed the house down for me. I told her I was leaving said goodbye and that I’d see her in the morning which she happily nodded to but my OH said when it came to it she was hysterical. My question is do I give in to her demands at bedtime and always do bed and bath when she asks for me or should I practice separating from her even though it makes her upset. Also any tips for nursery drop off? How long does sep anxiety last at this age? I feel so sad that she’s sad and just want to do the right thing. I just worry giving into her could make it worse? I’m back on day shifts so will be around in the evenings so could put her down every night but it’s nice for my OH to share the load - especially as I solo parent her the days she’s not in nursery (no family input etc)

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SarahDay1990 · 20/05/2021 11:30

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IDontWantToAdultToday · 21/05/2021 07:54

Hi OP, sorry you've not had any replies.

I haven't got any advice to offer i'm afraid as I'm going through a similar experience with my DS 3.10, but his has been triggered by nursery. He started in March and isnt settling. He vomits at nursery as he is worried and actually vomited before we even got into nursery the other day as he was so worried. He starts reception in September and I'm worried that this is all going to make everything worse. I need him to be in nursery as I work on the days that he is there and have no help from family. I feel awful for putting him through this and he crys every evening about nursery even on the days where he doesnt go.

I hope you get some replies OP it's awful as you dont know what to do for the best.

SarahDay1990 · 21/05/2021 07:57

Oh that’s so sad - I’m so sorry to hear that...it’s just heartbreaking. Does he settle at nursery after you’ve left?

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IDontWantToAdultToday · 21/05/2021 08:06

Sometimes he does, other times he crys
On and off through the day. I normally collect him when he vomits but nursery said to try leaving him there as he has started to associate vomiting with being able to go home. So i tried that but it seems to have made things worse as that's when the crying all evening started. I would love to just move nurseries but as he is starting school in September I'm worried that it would be too much for him to settle into a new nursery and the leave again in the summer all in the space of a couple of months. Hows your little one getting on now?

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