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6 month old - cries at new places and ppl

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jamjar84 · 13/05/2021 15:16

A little worried, do I need to though?

First time went to baby group and he was overwelmed, staring at other babies, singing and loud music, got abit much for him. Seeing our relatives and friends after a few mins its the same reaction. During lockdown its mostly been at home with me and dad, sometimes the grandparents who he'll cry at first upon seeing them and more so when visiting them. Every day go out for a walk which he doesnt mind. Only recently first time went into a supermarket which he took which well.

Do I need to expose him to new environments and faces more? He seems to cry easily and hard to calm down. Just wondered if lockdown had to do with it or he's just that kind of baby?

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toddlerrun · 13/05/2021 16:00

I think a lot of people with newborns will be experiencing the same.

The babies aren't used to seeing other people other than their own household.

I would say keep going. Keep socialising and babies can change and adapt so quickly, he will soon get used to being out and seeing other people

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jamjar84 · 14/05/2021 11:00

The other babies in baby group seemed unfazed enjoying the activity and some much younger. I was reluctant in joining but thought it would do us some good getting out of the house. But a few mums seemed to already know each other and probably go all the time. I know i shouldnt compare but seeing this was the 1st time going and we have been very careful during lockdown, perhaps too protective as he gets so overwelmed!

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Anonymous111 · 15/05/2021 20:02

My 7 month old exactly the same - and like you doesn’t appear to be happening in my mother’s group. I agree with @toddlerrun just keep going gently and they adapt so quickly that’s my hope/plan.. I think I try to socialise her every 2nd or 3rd day now.

Good luck

NuffSaidSam · 15/05/2021 22:06

It's probably partly personality, but lockdown won't have helped.

Keep going. Small, regular social interaction. Keep him close and try and avoid him becoming overwhelmed.

Also, remember they pick up on how you feel. So if you are going into baby group worried about covid/worried if he's going to cry/uncomfortable because the other mums know each other etc. he will pick up on that and also find it a worrying, uncomfortable experience.

ForThePurposeOfTheTape · 16/05/2021 14:11

@jamjar84

Other babies may have older siblings so used to a louder environment. If those siblings are school aged then the babies will be used to seeing big groups of kids during the school run and in playgrounds.

Just keep on exposing him to social situations and things will probably be fine.

I'm a mum of 3 and when I volunteered at a school I found a class of 30 kids overwhelming in terms of noise level and activity.

raising2children · 16/05/2021 20:19

Hi there

Have you ever felt overwhelmed with the amount of sensory input. lots of different noises, coming for all directions, smells, colours, lights, different faces and places. We learn to deal with all that sensory information and so will your baba.

If your baby feels overwhelmed, soothe to reassure all is ok, offering something that is familiar. Sitting where it's less hectic. could you go when its a little quieter.

my 1st son found it hard, whilst my 2nd son had no problem. 2nd son was used to a noisy older brother!

My friend has a son who is 18months older than my 1st son and I couldn't help compare development milestones. In the end, I had a word with myself... it doesn't help, Each unique child is on their own development path.

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jamjar84 · 17/05/2021 17:02

I do try and stay positive if I think it’s going to be a challenge for him, something I learnt from the early days of the crying (purple or colic), and give him something familiar that might comfort him but he’s not interested.
Today just walking into the high street he cried hearing different voices around perhaps. I managed to calm him down by going somewhere quiet, but by entering into a shop he was even more upset and then still in the car on the way home, sigh.
I will keep trying but it gets so stressful every time.

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Faelenath · 20/03/2025 03:52

Hi! Did your baby outgrow this? My baby is 6m old and we are going through the same thing. Can’t even go to the shops.

Anonymous111 · 20/03/2025 08:43

I’ve realised I was following this original thread as this happened to my daughter at roughly the same time and your message just popped up

mine is now 4 and a little confident leader at preschool and chats to adults confidently; chatty and not easy going but plays independently and with others consistently

She was so bad at 6-18 months she would become inconsolable if a postman knocked on the door. Routinely cried the entire time a friend and baby came for a play date. Cried every single transition. Cried in the pram constantly. Cried if I made a cup of tea.

it was tough and I was really worried
the only thing that worked was giving into it and reassuring her i was there - it was all attachment. Now she waves as I leave the house to go to work and her more confident brother gets clingy!

it will pass x

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