Hi everyone, just looking for advice or maybe past experiences. My 2 yr old (will be 3 in October) has always had very bad behavior issues. He's been fussy and had sleep issues since birth, crying and screaming literally ALL the time. It has only gotten worse - much much worse. He throws a minimum of 7 tantrums a day (yes I count) and they are not short tantrums but at least 15 minutes. He can't calm himself down, I have to physically remove him from the entire situation and rub his back and try and get him to chill out. He's VERY aggressive, I have 2 older daughters 7 and 5 and they are TERRIFIED of him because he's constantly hitting/biting/kicking. He's been kicked out of daycare for the same reason. He's a very picky eater too. He doesn't listen at all but I know he hears me. He destroys the house about 30 minutes after I'm done cleaning. He pees and poops all over even though he knows to use the potty, and he'll say he has to go I bring him to the bathroom and he'll get off the toilet and go on the floor even though I've tried to correct him so many times. If we raise our voices at him he runs and hides and covers his ears. We've tried so many disciplinary actions, spanking, time outs, reward systems, redirection, nothing helps. Spanking makes it worse he screams bloody murder for just a little tap. He barely sleeps at night still melatonin doesn't even help. He is screaming on and off all day our neighbors are getting mad and asking what's wrong with him. He breaks and throws things. He tries to kill our pet hamster. When I went to the bathroom once, he grabbed a chair and got onto the kitchen counter and grabbed a knife. Luckily I walked out the bathroom soon as he picked it up, who knows what could've happened! My husband can't even handle him. We are sooo exhausted!! And all his doctor says is it's because of his speech day. That's it! Does anyone have any similar situations? Any advice? Anytime? Please help