8.5 month old - really need sleep help

[Geordiebabe85]

Hi
My LO is 8.5 months. Slept through the night until around 6 months and then the wake ups got more and more frequent. I made the mistake of always feeding back ti sleep.
Now we're up every 2 hours (sometimes every hour) and I don't know what to do. Will she just one day get it or do I need to do something?
I don't think she needs the milk, I think its comfort. I tried giving water instead of milk but she wouldn't have it. Tried shush and pat but it annoyed her more.
Her naps aren't great either. 30 mins in the cot or 1 hour on me.
Heres our day
7.30 ish breakfast
11ish breastfeed and then nap
1ish lunch
3 breastfeed or 4oz bottle then nap
5ish tea
7ish start bedtime routine- bath / wash, pjs, breastfeed, story, teeth
8 5oz bottle and sleep
Then bf every 2 hours.

Am I doing something wrong? Am i not giving enough milk in the day? Are the naps wrong?
Please someone either tell me this is normal or tell me what ti do!

You're likely doing nothing wrong, some babies just don't sleep(including one of mine - she didn't sleep at all until she was 1.5. we were up every hour no matter what we did !!) . However 3pm is too late for a nap imo if you want a 7pm bedtime! Maybe try to make it one nap only just after lunchtime and see if that helps?

Have you tried a dummy? I know people have differing opinions on them but it might just give her the comfort she needs to settle for longer. I think otherwise I'd go with 2 tacts. Either BF on demand and you may just have to accept that this doesn't go away any time soon or go to her if she cries and make minimal fuss eg 'shhh' or a hand on the chest and she'll gently get the idea that she's not going to get BF all night. Does she eat well before bed? Might be worth stepping up her meals in the evening. I think this sounds like a comfort seeking rather than hunger though and is probably linked to increased separation anxiety and awareness. Xx

Thank you both. Good to know its normal. I keep hearing about babies who sleep through or just want 1 feed and I'm just so worried I'm getting everything wrong.
She has a dummy. In the past I could just pop it back in and she was happy but not anymore! She feeds really well before bed. Its the only feed she does well with. Her bfs now are all quite short except that last one she'll go for about 20 minutes.