20 mo ds different than others

[Rorlaa]

I am really worried about my sons development.
We live in a small village far from family, and during lockdown we could not really meet others in my sons age. But two weeks ago we met a friend with 2 children, and I was shocked, because her 1 yo interacted with me more than my son.
And after I started to watch him, googleing about his language delay issue, and found myself reading ads forums...
Alarm signs: poor eye contact, not always responding to his name (but if you say something he likes, you know immediate he was listeneing) poor imaginary play (but if i start it and involve him he's joining me for a short time) he's always touching my hand, and playing with my fingers. and language delay: only says 5-6 animal sounds.
But: he points (in books as well as outside the house), he's talking in his baby language, he understands everything we ask or propose, so otherwise he seems ok. We never had problems with eating or sleeping.
Me and dh filled mchat and both got medium risk.
Do you think we should go to a specialist? Our HV didn't say anything (she visited is this week) but couldn't reassure me neither.
(Sorry for faulty english/ not native)

Did the HV know about the Medium risk @Rorlaa? Has she referred him to a Paediatrician for assessment?

@BunnyRuddington no she didn't because we filled mchat the day after. And she will see us on 2 years assessment next.
When leaving she said "we're hoping there aren't bugs in the head". She wanted to be funny but it went deeper ...

Which questions did he fail on the MCHAT? that could give you a clue on where he is behind.

What a very odd thing fir her to say.

Is he being brought up bilingual? If so, that can delay language development initially.
In your position I would see the gp and ask about speech referal if hv no good.

@AladdinMum he doesn't share interests. So all 3 questions about that, like does he bring you things he found interesting.
And there are questions I've choosen yes, but it is rather a sometimes like pretend play: he plays the phone but doesn't play roles like feeding a doll and can't play with a toy car.
In the end I ve got 3 points.

@BunnyRuddington yes, and it only kicked in an hour after She left ...

@Pantheon no he is not bilingual. And not the speech delay wich worries me on its own, but the whole communication.
Yesterday I ve arrenged an appointment at pshicologist...
I am so afraid and can't describe the great and deep worry I feel.

@Rorlaa how is ur son now?

@Rorlaa is ur son did point to request or to show u ? plz rply what was the sign that u concerened? m worried for my son.

@Rorlaa is ur son did point to request or to show u ? plz rply what was the sign that u concerened? m worried for my son.

@Rorlaa is ur son did point to request or to show u ? plz rply what was the sign that u concerened? m worried for my son.

@Rorlaa did u son pointed to request or show u something?nd what was sign that concerned u for autism? plz rply if u are avail... m worried for my baby.

@Rorlaa did u son pointed to request or show u something?nd what was sign that concerned u for autism? plz rply if u are avail... m worried for my baby.