My 8 year old regularly pees everywhere when using the toilet. As in, the pee ends up all over the seat, under the seat, in between the hinge things and in the gap between the seat and the cistern, and all over the floor. Some pee definitely goes into the toilet too and stays there, unflushed. I usually find the mess a short while later. The cleaning and smell drive me mad but I try to be patient and keep reminding him to pee IN the toilet, clean up after himself and to flush! He does wash his hands at least.
But this, combined with him having quite untidy and large handwriting, being v sensitive to clothing fabrics and labels (we have to cut them all off), being a v messy eater (food all round his mouth as standard), struggling to use cutlery and to cut food (often uses his fingers instead), tending to talk and talk at length (monologuing?) and not allowing others much chance to reply and general issues with attention and needing to move a lot are making me wonder about dyspraxia and ADHD. Some things we put down to age initially when he was younger (e.g. being quite late to dress independently) but now he's older.....
He is very bright, draws very well, is very interested in learning generally, has a great imagination and concentrates well on things he likes (e.g. drawing).
My husband thinks it's purely a case of not concentrating and needing to focus, a discipline thing rather than a possible developmental/additional needs thing so is quite dismissive of the idea of ADHD or dyspraxia and a bit impatient about things.
School have consistently reported inattention and wandering around the class over the years but since starting juniors and gelling with his current teacher he has really improved in school in those terms.
Would really appreciate some help please!