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Can’t get my 3 year old clean! Poos on his bedroom floor! Help please!

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KelseaRocio · 10/04/2021 17:00

Can anyone give me some advice please? My son is 3.3 years old. I have another son of 1. I am finding it really hard to get my son clean. He understands but just doesn’t get there! We have tried everything including rewards and praise. He has now taken to taking off his nappy to poo all over the floor of his bedroom. He doesn’t seem to understand this isn’t acceptable. This is usually when we put him to bed for a sleep when over tired. He is also shouting at us and answering back. He can be absolutely adorable as is a soft nature. He has always been a good eater but recently is going backwards spitting his food and playing with it. I’m at my wits end with worry especially with his toilet and pooing in his bedroom. He actually handed his nappy to my partner. My concern is I know nothing about his fathers family background. There has been no contact since I was pregnant. I’m concerned there might be a hidden medical reason for this. My partner and I have been together since my son was a tiny baby ... he is his father in every sense of the word. We have gone out of our way to give as much attention etc especially after my second son was born. Can anyone give me any advice on how to deal with this please? Him trashing his room and pooing has happened twice this week. I’m worried there might be a hidden issue. How do I get him clean? Thanks for your help.

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BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2021 19:01

No experience sorry @KelseaRocio but that does sound really hard to deal with. Have you got any other concerns about him like his speech? If he goes to Nursery do they have any concerns at all?

NoKnit · 10/04/2021 21:25

I can't help with what to do but he im sure is completely normal this is just what some 3 year olds do

KelseaRocio · 10/04/2021 23:17

Thank you for your replies. He does go to nursery where they say he is a lovely good boy. He eats well at nursery too. He will use the toilet for wee when they remind him. I’ve spoken to them and they think it may be attention seeking. I don’t understand why he would feel he needs attention though as we go well above with it. All my friends with children the same age are not having this ‘dirty protest’ and their children are clean. I’m very concerned and don’t know what to do..

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BunnyRuddington · 11/04/2021 08:37

I’m very concerned and don’t know what to do.. if you are in the UK I'd speak to your HV first, or if you can't get hold of her, your GP.

What's your gut feeling on this?

simonisnotme · 13/04/2021 21:03

contact ERIC
www.eric.org.uk/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwgtWDBhDZARIsADEKwgMnFV0i687SiB9YelBV7OhyvXRk-IH24QnfpEP7f8VZf2kQHJ13rKUaAkAkEALw_wcB
for advice might be an idea
also books to read together like 'poo goes to poo land' and tape on the nappy so its hard to get off

KangarooSally · 29/04/2021 03:59

While waiting for medical help can you put him in a onesie for sleep so he can't physically get his nappy off

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