At our nursery my son was aged 4 and they didnt help him go to the toilet. He would come home with pee splattered lightly on his clothes/shoes and if he pood at nursery every few days I was treating a sore bum because he didn’t really get how to wipe. I’m pretty certain he never bothered washing his hands. When I spoke to them initially I asked them about why the toilet was down a corridor with two closed doors between it and the classroom and the kids weren’t supervised there (it wasn’t attached to other rooms or corridors, just the classroom). Their reply was that they let the kids have their independence unless they asked for help. My son had adhd and it never occurred to him think ahead and realise he would need help until he was already alone in the loos and in a mess.
At his other council run nursery they were very proactive in teaching the kids how to use the toilet properly and changed nappies too if still required. This new nursery was private and it seemed they couldn’t care less. Long story short for a range of reasons my son went elsewhere and I just tried my best to teach him to be independent with the toilet, however he still gets a sore bum if I don’t always wipe for him to make sure he gets it all.
I just want to know what other people do. Is it normal to still be wiping his bum for him (he’s nearly 6 now)? And now my nearly 3 year old is ready to start nursery but he has a little penis and shoots pee everywhere unless it’s held down (and he still hasn’t got used to holding it down at the right angle by himself).
Is it just the school system that kids are left to figure out toilet stuff by the self mainly? I just wish I could be there every time, showing/helping them to do it right every time and leave the bathroom clean and comfortable. If they get used to leaving the toilet dirty then how does that encourage cleanliness as they get older if they are used to it?