ADVICE PLS WITH POTTY TRAINING A 3 YR OLD

[potxola]

Hi there, my 3 yr old son is not interested in using the potty. If I take him he will do a number one,but he doesn't know yet when he wants to do it.
When it comes to number 2, if I sit him on the potty at the time I know he is due, he will forget all about it and use it as a chair. He does it standing up and I believe he does not know yet when he wants to do it, so he can not tell me about it. Even if I caught him on time and sit him on the potty, he will stop . He is very tall for his age and extremely bright, but he is just not interested.I have tried the rewards, changing potty, using the training seat...etc
I have been told with boys it takes longer and that they are older when they want to do it. I do not want to force him. I am not in a hurry, I just wonder if I am the only mum in this situation. THANKS

try the toilet instead of the potty as that had happened to my DD as she had no interest in the potty at first, was using the toilet and now she'll use the potty now and again.

my DSD wasnt potty trained till she was 3.6yrs old (she lives with her mum)

Thanks biglips, I have also tried using the toilet, and he hates it. It is still too big for him.
He would use the trainer seat that goes on top of the toilet when I take him there, but he is not interested.
It feels good to know I am not alone in this though

my breakthrough with DD was the Potty training books and it went from there. You can also get them from the library too here and yes most BOYS do take longer than GIRLS

Funnily enough my sister's 3 yr old (September) has just trained himself practically over night having not been interested before.

My other sister has an almost 4 year old who hasn't been interested and is now getting there - bit of a pride thing as he knows cousin is younger than him and using potty. (He did first wee on potty the other night and said to my sis after "you know that wasn't hard"!)

It sounds like he is just not quite ready yet so if it doesn't bother you I would leave it. When he is ready it will prob happen ver quickly.

Try bribery. Amazing how a chocolate button focuses the mind....I gradually moved the goalposts - but this worked with an almost 2 year old!

My ds1 is almost 3.2 and is just not interested in using a potty, wearing specially chosen big boy pants, the whole shebang. We have tried potty training on 2-3 occasions now but, like you, he does not seem to recognise the feeling just before he is ready to go (for wees - haven't even thought about poos!!) He is just not interested in any aspect of it, despite bribery, being "grown-up", special potty books etc.

My gut instinct tells me that he will be ready soon, but I'm really not interested in forcing him - I think he's got to want to do it too iyswim? The issue has been componded by the fact that I am 15 weeks pg with no.3 and have had all day nausea/exhaustion for the past 3 months or so - I really just haven't had the energy most days to train.

The only thing we haven't tried is a training seat on the loo - that is the next step, planning to do that in the next few weeks now that I'm feeling better. Btw, one of the nursery nurses (he goes on a thurs/fri) told me last week that they have 4 children at the mo who aren't potty trained, they are all slightly older than my ds (he is in the over-3s room), this made me feel loads better!

Sorry for waffly long post, just wanted to say you are def not alone. Got to go out now, will keep an eye on this thread!

Does he have a friend that can do it, that might encourage him to be interested?

My dd2 wasn't really potty trained at 3 and was not really dry reliably until 4.(She was really bright too) It's more common than you think but lots of mums who have these probs with their dcs don't talk about it because there is always some alpha mummy who boasts about her dc potty training at 18mThey do it when they're ready for it.

ds became toilet trained ... overnight at age 3 1/2. Before then never seemed to be able to say before needing to go, never seemed to be able to hold it. I stopped at age 3 trying, used the pullups, and simply gently said "toilet time?" "Oh no, its wet again", but never told him off. Then by himself, one day he said, I need to go to the toilet, and used it for both. Since then he's been dry night and day (except for one accident - too much drinking before sleeping!!)
PS never used the potty - he never liked it, and we just then never used it.

WOW!!!!!! THANK YOU ALL SOOOOO MUCH for your support and advice.
I JUST CAME FROM A TODDLER GROUP ,WENT TO THE LOO WITH HIM AND HE DID A WEE IN THE POTTY, I MADE A BIG DEAL, THE PEOPLE NEXT DOOR MUST HAVE HEARD ME PRAISING HIM. I KNOW THAT WOULD BE IT FOR TODAY.
I AM GOING TO PUT HIM IN THE POTTY EVERY DAY AFTER WE CAME BACK HOME, SO HE GETS THE IDEA SLOWLY. I HOPE ONE DAY HE WILL SURPRISE ME.
YES SMARTIEJAKE, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF THOSE ALPHA MUMMYS YOU TALK ABOUT.
Snooks, my ds is also 3.2. They will do it when there are ready.
Congratulations on your 3rd!.

Thanks potxola and well done your ds for weeing in the toddler group potty!

Wise words smartiejake, until you read a thread like this you do think you're the only one......!

Snooks, sorry I didn't explain it properly. He did a wee at home in our loo in his potty.
He would never do a wee in a toddler group!!!!!!, he would have a huge tantrum.
I tried this afternoon again after coming back home and nothing. We just need to be patient snooks.