Child being unkind

[Katydeedee]

I have had an email so say that my 8 year old was unkind twice to the same child last week and there have been sanctions put in place in school.

She is new to this school so I don’t know the parents well.

She has admitted the name of the child so I wondered whether to track her Mum down on the class WhatsApp and privately message her to apologise and tell her that we have taken it seriously and have had stern words and sanctions at home. Or do I stay out of it and not interfere?

I feel very awkward as a new parent to the school and just want to do the right thing so that the mums don’t all hate me and my daughter!

What would you do?

I wouldn't punish your daughter if the school have and I wouldn't contact the other parent either. I would sit down and have a chat with your daughter and ask her why she was unkind and talk about why we shouldn't say or do things that may hurt others' feelings.

Have the school said in what way she was being unkind?

Name calling and whispering to others about her. Not nice and certainly not how I want her behaving! She has lost her iPad time at home, I kind of want her to know that school and home communicate and we both disagree with her behaviour.

We have had a long talk about being kind and she has got very upset and knows she has made somebody else upset by her behaviour.

I'm just wondering why your daughter felt the need to behave that way? Is she feeling unsure, awkward about being the new girl? is she trying to gain friendships? This discussion could then lead to asking what could she do differently to get those needs met.

Hi - I’m new to this group and just after advice..
Feeling heartbroken this morning.. my sons friend knocked for him on the way to school, my son decided to close the blinds and ignore him.. I finally heard him knocking and let him in.. my eldest son slammed the living room door shut on him and youngest son could hardly speak.. when they finally left said friend had gone on ahead on his own and my two boys were walking behind.. it breaks my heart they can treat someone like this.. I have brought them up to kind so why do they behaving like this, I have cried all morning... wondering where have I gone wrong.. sorry for the rambling...