Very anxious autistic toddler

[sapphire777]

Hi! I have two boys, both autistic, ADHD and both have severe anxiety. But my youngest is 2.5 and he is like superglue on his dad. Dad has depression and is also autistic and ADHD. I try to give my hubby a break as much as I can (we are both at home with kids). But it's tough. I do all the housework, home education for older kiddo, paperwork for insurances etc... hubby takes the bins out... I've recently implemented more systems to try and help him to help me (HA! :( ) But It's all just too hard sometimes.

We have very little support. I'm so tired and I'm anxious too. Some days are so long, constantly stopping 2yo hurting 5yo and trying to stop dad from losing the plot. It feels like it's all my responsibility. I literally feel like the sticky tape holding it altogether. I want more from life!

Anyone else got a very very anxious neurodiverse toddler/preschooler?

It sounds like you’re having a tough time! I am so sorry to hear this. You sound like you have a lot of weight on your shoulders!

From what you’ve written, it sounds as though your husband’s mental health is having more of an impact than the children? As in, if he got proper treatment to manage his condition he would be able to help out at home (I live with an adult with MH conditions so understand there are difficulties with this and chores etc, but only taking out the bins is a just laziness) which in turn would help you.

What support does your partner have? Doctors etc? Does he not work at all?

As for the kids - would you be able to access a childminder, family, friends or nursery, even just for a few hours a week to help give you a break and to build their confidence in the world?

The whole family at home constantly, with what sounds like unaddressed health issues with Dad, doesn’t sound like a positive environment for growth and development, especially as you say it’s tough!

Thank you, it is really hard. I'm going to have to take the pressure of myself somehow