7.5 YO still bed wetting and in pull ups at night.

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Been in touch with doctor who said to increase her fluid intake and not to wake her at night when we go to bed as it will just make her tired/crabby and not help the situation. Ensure she has a good wee before she goes to bed etc.
Have recently heard about ‘wee alarms’ and thinking it may be worth us purchasing one, the only problem is that she shares a room with her 1 YO sister and I know it would likely wake her too.

My mum has made me feel like total shit this weekend because she’s still in pull ups but it’s not like we haven’t been trying to get her out of them. We’ve even tried her without them to see if she grasped it that way but we just ended up with a colossal amount of washing.

She was potty trained during the day at 19 months and I always assumed nighttime would naturally just follow! Any advice?

My son is same age and the same. Can count number of dry nights on one hand. I'm not too worried about it he just wears a pull up he won't forever I'm sure one day it will just click.

Your Mum sounds awful it isn't your fault or your daughters.

Sorry no advice but just to say you aren't alone

My son is the same. The pull ups are just full at night and he has a decent amount of water during the day and none in the evening. It’s a bit ridiculous for your mum to make you feel like shit. It’s not your fault. Children aren’t “trained” to be dry at night, it happens when a certain hormone kicks in which stops them producing too much urine in their sleep. Sure they can learn to wake up if weeing but I don’t think the bed wetting alarm sounds practical if your DD shares a room. I don’t worry about it and I don’t think you should either. My 4 year old DD is dry at night so I know it’s completely random and nothing to do with “training” because we haven’t done anything differently with her and they were both daytime potty trained at the same age (around 2.5yrs). Hang in there / she won’t be in pull ups forever!

This is far more common than many people realise. Whenever I've taken Brownies (age range 7 to 10) away we have this conversation with parents and it s quite rare to have a trip where no-one is using pull-ups. As others have said, it is a matter of producing the right hormone. It will happen one day.

This was us with ds last year who was 7 then and wet every night. As it was the start of lockdown and we wouldn’t be going anywhere (staying the night anywhere) for a while we figured we’d give the alarm a go (read it could take a few weeks to start working). He was dry within a week, had one accident after about a month and put the alarm back on but has been dry ever since. We talked to him about the alarm so that he bought into it and was quite excited about trying it.

So if you haven’t tried one I’d thoroughly recommend it. The alarm is loud and will wake everyone but for us at least it was only needed a few nights and in the long run has meant better sleep. Can’t hurt to try and preferable to taking medication if they don’t need to.

My 8-year-old daughter is like that too. She's fine otherwise, so I'm not too worried. My brother wet the bed until her was a teenager and his daughter is 9 and is still in pull-ups too. It'll pass!

Thank you all. This is all very reassuring! I’m a bit reluctant to try the wee alarm as we’re functioning off very little sleep as it is (21 month old and 4 month old) practically I think it would be a nightmare for us 😩

Both my sons had to wear pull ups until about age 8 or 9 and then gradually just stopped wetting at night themselves.

The wee alarm works when the kid is potentially ready to be dry and she just only needs to associate the wee urge with waking up, if she is not ready (like it happens every night) the wee alarm will do nothing except a disturbed sleep for her and the sister.
Your mom is uninformed, thinking bedwetting is something that happens for laziness, willingly, or something that can be controlled or trained, is a totally wrong belief of the past. All the doctors would say until 8yo it's totally a natural thing, in many cases even until puberty.
If you have no problem with it, keep the pull-ups and wait for the natural end of the enuresis. Many times trying to stop it, making a big issue about, as well as making bad comments, has the only effect of increased anxiety and shame that makes everything worse or even longer.