My 7 year old daughters was having melt down and hitting me trying to get her off I accidentally caught her eye with my hand

[Kelly2021]

My 7 year old daughter has behaviour problems and has meltdowns over the slightest thing she's broken her tablet she hits me it's so hard to deal with when she's like that 😫 Friday night she was having a meltdown after being told to go to bed she then starts screaming at me and hitting me so trying to stop her my hand caught her eye and she was crying and I think she has a mark nothing significant it's hard to tell I feel awful I would never intentionally hurt my daughter. Can you lose your kids for something like this? I love my kids so much I'm so worried (lost last post so posted again) I have called family partnership a few months ago for help and was told I would get word on parenting course for dealing with children with behaviour problems and would call to check in every 2 weeks but none of it happened

Did you really 'catch her eye' or did you hit her? I don't want to be unkind but it's important that you're honest...nobody can tell you if you'll lose your child on this forum...has she been assessed for autism or ADHD?

@FortunesFave

Did you really 'catch her eye' or did you hit her? I don't want to be unkind but it's important that you're honest...nobody can tell you if you'll lose your child on this forum...has she been assessed for autism or ADHD?

No I didn't deliberately hit her was trying to get her off me and my hand went in her eye trying to get her off I would never deliberately do that. She isn't yet I think she definitely needs to be seen by specialist

Hi, agree with Kelly. It sounds it might be beneficial to see if there's any other underlining issue rather than "just behaviour issue". But expect things would go slowly now after the build up of huge waiting list since last year.

Go to online diagnosis tools to see if you recognise any familiar symptoms. If so, might worth going private to speed it up.

It's hard to handle a child's tantrum, especially when you are torn by the need of discipline and the feeling of guilt. But be sure that kids do need boundary which is the right way to love them.

@Return2thebasic

Hi, agree with Kelly. It sounds it might be beneficial to see if there's any other underlining issue rather than "just behaviour issue". But expect things would go slowly now after the build up of huge waiting list since last year.

Go to online diagnosis tools to see if you recognise any familiar symptoms. If so, might worth going private to speed it up.

It's hard to handle a child's tantrum, especially when you are torn by the need of discipline and the feeling of guilt. But be sure that kids do need boundary which is the right way to love them.

I did try back in august I spoke to gp who said yo self refer to family partnership who said the would put me on a course for 15 weeks to help with dealing with kids with behaviour issues and if it didn't help a paediatrician would see her said they would call twice a week for support none of it happened then I put it down to covid and tried my best to get on with it. I get no help from her dad I don't live near family it's hard I try my hardest as a mum I always go above and beyond to make my kids happy. The comment above upset me saying did you actually hit her I was so upset I had caught her eye there wasn't a mark there at all