Don't know what to do, incident at nursery

[Sweetielover]

My little boy has started back at his nursery last week and all last week and this week he'd been complaining about another little boy pushing him over and hitting him with toys so I spoke to the staff and they said they would keep an eye on the situation.
This week I was spoken to after one of the sessions and the teacher said the other little boy had pushed mine over again and hit him with a toy but it was dealt with, just incase mine mentioned it at home.

Today I was met by the staff again saying my little one had grabbed this little boy whilst playing because the other boy had knocked over his tower that but had grabbed him hard enough to leave a mark, I feel absolutely awful as he's never done anything like it before.

I said to the member of staff that it was very unlike him and we've always talked about using kind hands. I feel awful that this has happened.

I don't know how to talk to mine about what happened or what to do next?

I really wouldn't bother talking to him about it, it's so past the incident he probably won't be able to relate or remember.

It's so hard, especially we're not there to see it for ourselves. I reckon your son was sticking up for himself. My son kept getting pushed or scratched by the same boy. I talked to nursery so see what they were doing. I practiced with my son to assertively say 'stop' with the gesture - hand in front of him. then go seek an adult.

Please do not worry about this.

I work in childcare and things like this happen all the time. It’s just kids!

Nurseries have to record all of these incidents to protect themselves and the children. They also have to inform you, as it is a written record about your child. You can request to see your child’s records at any time.

From what you’ve said, it sounds normal. I would expect the staff to manage the situation, which it sounds like they are.

Of course you can continue to encourage your child to play nicely, kind hands etc but I really wouldn’t fret.

If you are concerned about your child being bullied however I would follow the nurseries bullying policy for support