Arghh! Anyone else's DC's suddenly turned into a total whingebag???

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DS is 17months and lately he just seems to whinge constantly! He doesn't like any food I put in front of him, he doesn't like his bib being tied, he hates the word No and hits me in temper, he screeches in his high chair until we put him down, he cries and kicks when he's being changed, cries when he goes to bed etc etc...

Please tell me this is just normal developmental behaviour...!!

He's a total angel and nursery btw so isn't a teething/underlying issue - the nursery are when we describe all this!!

Yes, I think it's going round - littlesoditis I think it's called.

DD (one year) is going through it too, I also have the joy of being bitten when she's cross. I have taken to calling her a little 'wotsit' because otherwise I know she'll start learning bad words which she will repeat at high volumes in shops

Yes this is usually normal.

It's about learning to control their environment I think, rather than having parents controlling everything for them.

Sympathies

He looks like such an angel, hard to believe they can act liek this innit?

Its vv draining.....I feel like nothing I do is right and that he doesnt love me! Although I know he does, it doesn't seem that way iyswim?

Ooh it's you!!! i didn't realise it was you when I replied.

Monkey has been up since 2am and has only just conked out!

Dillo - glad to hear I'm not the only one! You will see how mardy he gets at the next meet up! He hates being in his buggy now - he wants to walk everywhere! Bang goes any shopping sessions!!!

Oh the constant wailing and gnashing of teeth....and that's just me. I feel like a wrung out rag by the end of the day and the day then starts again four hours later. Crookshanks, as always you have my ear and my sympathy!

crookshanks - i could have written your post
DS also 17 months and he is a total whingebag at times!

it is a phase, but it is annoying isn't it?!

trying to get a nappy on DS is like wrestle a conga eel

My DD1 is still like that at 4! She is driving me mad.

I doin't want to upset anyone and I'm not saying that this is the right thing to do and you must, it's just a thought

Whatabout the possibility that he i sfeeling like he wants to be a bit more grown up now and is feeling frustrated

Maybe he could have a booster seat on the chair instead of a complete highchair(or do you mean this) and could you get bibs that pop over his head or are velcro then maybe he could help put it on and off

maybe give him a choce of two things for his food and he may be happier to eat it

I say all this because I complained like mad about dd2 at 16 months about the same sort of whinginess and someone else told me this and it worked a treat
Just a thought, hope it helps or feel free to ignore completely

TrinityRhino - Funnily enough I tried some of that with my DD and it did help (the overhead bib thing doesn't get ripped off and tossed on the floor in disgust) and if she chooses her fruit for breakfast she does at least eat some of it.

yeah we tried things like getting booster seat/little table and chair instead of highchair and seeing if, as Trinity suggested having a more 'grownup' version helped.

Is he doing the bending backwards thing when you put him in pushchair - someone suggested to me doing a karate chop in middle (joke). It was tempting.

Well the bibs he's got are the ones with the tray bits to catch all the food - I shouldn't have said tied as that was misleading - pop them rather! I always ask him first 'can mummy put your bib on' as I figure he's a little person and deserves respect and sometimes he leans forwards, other times not. I put velcro ones on him sometimes and he pulls so hard at them, I end up taking them off for fear he will hurt his neck....so its pretty un predictable!

I do see your point re the chair and the food...we have started bringing the high chair right up to the table so he feels much more part of what is going on at the dinner table and the first couple of times it worked, but now he just whinges and whinges and DH and I are tempted to postpone our dinner so we can eat in peace, but then he would miss out on the family eating time! He is too small for a booster seat imo and tonight he wouldn't eat what I put in front of him, so I gave him one of my oven chips from my plate (5% fat ones I may add! lol!) but he turned his nose up at that too!

I dunno....maybe its just frustration as although he's communicating pretty well for his age, it may not be to the level he wants, hence all the screeching....

Its very demoralising though....

Oh not those rubberised ones?? DD hates those and we've had to give them all away in favour of the over the top ones. We put a napkin on her lap as well to catch the spoils.

He won't be a little wotsit for ever you know, this is just a stage. Having said that my DD has been going through a stage for over a year now and she's only 53 weeks old

Oh not those rubberised ones?? DD hates those and we've had to give them all away in favour of the over the top ones. We put a napkin on her lap as well to catch the spoils.

He won't be a little wotsit for ever you know, this is just a stage. Having said that my DD has been going through a stage for over a year now and she's only 53 weeks old

yeah it does get you down a bit when it's all the time.

Take it easy on yourself. He just wants to control things in his life, that you can't always let him control.

I like that "littlesoditis" my 18 month old ds is a suffere of this condition too and does absolutely everything you describe yet whenever we go anywhere everyone has always said how laid back he is he has always been a bit of a whingebag yet so many people when he does kick off outside normally at not being allowed to walk tell me they have never heard him sry even my neighbours who I assumed must think I was torturing him.

Another little whingey sod here!!! DD2 is (I think!!!! eek bad mommy!) 15 months. I know terrible, but I'm struggling to keep track of 2 little ages perfectly to the date - I'm just not good with numbers!! She does the highest pitch squeal if she doesn't get her own way, bites, scratches, throws her arms up if you try to pick her up (so she slips through your hands and nearly clatters to the floor!!!). I've started to let her do little tasks (taking nappy sacks to the bin, passing me wipes when I'm doing her nappy - we use so many wipes this way but hey ho). The awful thing is quite often when she goes off on one, her big sister (2.5) decides to join in too!!

Relieved am not only one!

My dd is 21m, and over the last week all I hear all day is "want to" said in a petulant voice, and meaning DON'T want to... absolutley anything I suggest. Even when I give her choices like buggy or walk, it's the same.

Some choices do work though - she used to be v tricky at nappy changing time, but I ask her where she wants to have nappy changed, and she goes off and lies down goodly somewehere. Phew for 1 success.

Also she's feeling v independent and tells me "self" all the time - I wasn't even supposed to join in with singing to the cd of nursery rhymes today, only she was allowed to sing along!

Lol at you not being allowed to sing along!

DS was very good at dinner time today. I didn't use a rubber tray type bib and gave him his own fork and a bowl which he seemed to like and he tucked in happily...whether it was because he felt he was eating more like mummy and daddy do or just a fluke I don't know!

He's been very cute though - he has discovered my tummy and keeps toddling over and going tummy and then trying to peer into my belly button and then giggles when he pats it and it wobbles...ahh well, at least my post baby jelly belly serves a purpose now! Free entertainment for him! lol!

Oh thank god, I am not alone. DD1 is suffering from little soditis at the moment, kicking and biting me, constantly asking me for things and then doing that godawful 'air raid siren' whine where you can hear it building into a tantrum and can't do anything to stop it.

On the bibs side, Sainsbury do some very soft plastic velcro bibs with a tray catcher thing for a couple of quid, they are the only thing she will wear and as they rinse under the tap i only need 2!

|I just hope she grows out of it before DD2 grows into it....

AND I had her lying on the floor in m&s, screaming cos she kept taking pretty pink umbrellas off the hook - she put 1st one back when I asked her to but then could not believe I meant she should actually leave it on the hook, rather than swirl it around her head, or bang it on the floor. I have learned my lesson - keep her in the buggy when shopping.

Hey, but she redeemed herself at a playgroup by turning down the sweet biscuit, choosing banana, cucumber and apple instead and asking for rice cakes, and by proclaiming "sharing" v loudly, and giving toys to all the other children!

DS at the crack of dawn this morning was romaing around my bed -I was trying to snuggle him in beside me for an extra few minutes in bed...futile- and I was lying on my side watching him but this was not good enough he came over and was pushing my head and my shoulders trying to make me lie on my back not entirely sure what difference this made to him apart from the fact that lying on my back it was harder to see what he was up to.

DD is very commanding - likes to keep us fit with her orders of run, jump, sit down.. claps her hands at me going up up up, if I dare try and rest a moment..... now, who's meant to be in charge here.....?