So what order do things happen in during puberty? I have 9yo with developing breast buds.

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I just cannot remember. She is 9yo and has been developing for about 5mths. She is soooo embarassed about it and does not even like the word 'boobies' mentioned (our child-friendly term for breasts.) She does not seem to have any hair but is started to whiff a bit after a day of running around etc.

sad at thought of 7 year olds with deo-dorant in their school bags...

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Its harder for the first dd. Mine wore sports crop tops to hide hers for more than a year .dd2 who is 4 years younger is much more open and relaxed about the whole business. She is 10 1/2 and would be size AA. Tried it, hated it and carried on without bra (for now)... lol....but is very interested in BUYING them. Her big sis has more lovely undies than her mother ever owned in her sad white and beige cotton life.

my dd is 8 and she has started to develope boobs but she is tall and weighs only 4 stone.she has started to have greacy hair too.and also has a few weepy days.

Just a thought... I started developing early and got teased something horrible at school. I think it's great that you guys are all so open with your daughters (as I don't feel my parents were) I would also add that teaching them some 'social skills' around how to handle the potential 'extra' attention might be good. sorry but some boys and men can be inconsiderate pigs

Need to teach kids , not to be embarrassed and just feel confident with changes happen . Its easy for the kids when parents talks to them and explain them what would happen when they reaching puberty .To make it easy for parentsand kids i m sharing a video . I m sure after watching this video , it would help parents talk about puberty without any akwardness.
www.howtotellyourchild.com/puberty-in-girls/

What advice have you got re boys please? DS is nearly nine, and is starting to get hairier arms and legs, his shoulders are broader than his hips and he whiffs a bit after sports. We've had a conversation about needing to wash more, and other changes that will happen, but anything else to talk about now? Wet dreams..???

Body odour, spots, greasy hair and moodiness are adrenarchal signs - not pubertal.

Adrenarche can start from 6/8 onwards and doesn't mean that puberty is imminent. Girls can have pubic hair and breast buds a few years before true puberty, when periods start.

My dd is 13 and I was reading this as she started with the greasy hair and development of body hair a couple of years ago and still not sign of a period. Her boobs started to kick in at the end of Y6 and she wouldn't mention them. I talked her into her first bras when she went on a school residential, as I said she'd be doing a lot of activities and it would help if her boobs were supported. She has proper pubic hair now, and has started with wispy underarm hair. We've had spots, bad moods, despair, everything you'd expect from PMT but still no period. I was rather hoping a timetable would be confirmed here, but it's not to be. I'm not worried as I know there is a lot of variance in the development of children/young adults, but I'm hoping that she kicks in soon as I was 16 when my periods started and I had a lot of fertility issues in later life.

dd began breast buds and pits at 8.
discharge at 9
periods at 9 and ten months.

Just marking to comeback later as was thinking I need to start thinking about this for dd

There's also a suggestion that it's linked to the body fat percentage rather than simple weight because you need a certain percentage of fat to be able to sustain a pregnancy. My 8 year old weighs 3.5 stone, so I think it's probably a way off for us, but there are other (tall) girls in her year who are definitely developing already.

when dd started her periods she was 6 stone, and very slim. still is, though at 12 has become more womanly shaped, hips and thighs area esp. she's now 7stone 5.

Tbh think dd(9) is a long way from this. No obvious signs at all and she is small and very slight compared to her friends. She is unlikely to hit 7 stone until well into her teens however her best friend is one of the eldest in the year and tallest (dd youngest and smallest) and dd said that friend was starting to 'get boobies' and they had talked about it when she was here last week. Has also started to take an interest TV ads for sanitary protection. Think I need to have a chat not because it's imminent but more because she will have friends who are maturing earlier and don't want her to get mixed up ideas.

I have read that the 'trigger' weight for periods to start is 7 1/2 stones.