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Deleyed development 3 years old

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Mummyorch · 05/03/2021 10:07

Hello ladies, im new here, and basically wanted to reach out and see if anyone had any similar issues with there little ones. I have a 3 yr old ds. Hes a fantastic little boy, so happy and content. But he doesnt talk. He can say the odd words, but no were near the level he should be at all.
He is in nursery 2 full days- and they have ref him for a portage worker to help his development. She said he has issues with speech, some understanding and social skills.
He hasnt seen a hv since 9 months but passed his 9-12 month assessment. He hit milestones with walking/crawling/sitting up absolutely fine.

He doesnt say many words and communicates with pointing and taking me to things he wants. Although he doesn't say words i feel he trys but simply cant get them out. And then on the other side he will randomly say a word ie we get no alot wen he isnt aloud something or told to get down.
He is the loudest child and babbles all the time just no proper words.
Some things he fully understands like no get down, bed time, kiss please for exmaple, but if i was to say put this here he wouldnt.
Hes a happy little boy, makes eye contact, smiles and laughs and has started greeting me with a run and cuddle if ive been to the shops and arrived home.
He doesnt particularly play with toys as such, but loves being outside and plays happily on the trampoline, slide, swing, sandpit ect.
He loves a tuff tray with different textures. Hes a fab eater and sleeper- doesnt need a set routine i can take him were ever and he fine. Isn’t bothered by busy parks or plays gyms either.

He has now been ref for a hearing test, and also on a wait list for a paediatrician referal but im not fully sure why. I was told its to rule things in and out, and that it better to be on and not need it than not at all.
He hasnt had any app at salts he is on a wait list but it’s absolutely massive unfortunately.

Has anyone experienced anything similar and had a outcome.
Hes a only child with just me, he has been with only me most of lockedown and only mixes with my parents for exmaple.

He doesnt particularly play with children his own age but he happy to mix and play along side my friend daughther who is 6 and follows her like a Shadow. He isn’t unsocialable and isnt bothered by other children. Nursery have even said he will play along side them obviously no communication.
The hv is arranging a sogs review but i know full well from looking on line its pointless as he wont do anything on demand and similar thing that was asked in his 2 yr review (that i had to chase and did via. Paper print out and sent back)

The portage worker has said a paediatrician will rule things in and out ie autism as she isnt qualifed to do that and as she said im not saying he is not saying he isnt, but to me he doesnt show the “red flags” apart from the speech/understanding issue and lack of socail play. He doesnt have sensory issues, doesnt line things up for example, spin wheels, have tantrums or get overwhelmed
I get the spectrum is so large, but simply wondered if anyone had a little one who was similar and wat outcome they had or any tips to help him
Thankyou

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pinkandblueflowers · 05/03/2021 22:15

I've not experienced an outcome but I am in a very similar boat to u where my son is almost 3 and only has single words, he's undergoing speech therapy and I've referred him for a proper hearing test (not just a basic one the gp does but more in-depth hearing test) and yeah see if u can see my post I wrote in him

Myneighboursdomyheadin · 05/03/2021 22:22

My ds2’s language only came when he was 3. I put endless work into helping him have as many age-appropriate experiences as possible and also deferred school start for you which was a good choice.

Hanen It Takes Two to Talk was my bible and using visuals really helped.

Myneighboursdomyheadin · 05/03/2021 22:23

...for him....

AladdinMum · 06/03/2021 01:21

I think there is enough in your description to warrant caution - if the nursery feels that he requires portage support then he should certainly be seen by a development paediatrician I think.

Mummyorch · 06/03/2021 08:39

Pinkandblueflowers i believe he been ref to the hosp for hearing test so that should be a in depth one? Do you have a link for your thread so i can have a read?

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pinkandblueflowers · 06/03/2021 09:46

@Mummyorch I don't know how to link but if u look in the same section u posted so behaviour development it is there and it has something about age 3 speech in the title

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