DS 12 yr 7 is doing brilliantly academically at school, and really enjoying school except for MFL as he has a Specific learning difficulty and he lacks confidence in that area.
However the school is 5 miles away goes with only 2 boys from his primary school . Their mums are 2 of my best friends so this is difficult.
These 2 boys started picking on him on the train. playing silly tricks and calling him stupid, idiot etc
He did mention some of this but I found some texts he sent basically calling them motherf* etc.He would only do this if he was really upset.
One of these board does have a history of mild bullying although mum is in denial. DS has hardly ever been in trouble at primary school.
We told DS to talk to the bullybusters at school, but instead he went straight to lower school Head and complained about the bullying. The other boy then showed the texts ds had sent, so they all got a talking to, which i have no problem with as ds shouldn't have sent texts.
I spoke to the mums we decided not to let it come between us and to leave the boys to sort it out between themselves.
I thought things seem to be better. There was another incident involving another boy when ds finally lost it and ended up fighting on the train. But after this it seemed like a huge weight had lifted off ds. I also got confirmation from the boy that ds was fighting with that the other 2 boys really weren't treating ds very nicely.
Then he got mugged by some strange boys in the park one evening and then again the next morning, and again after half term. The police are involved and we are going into the school (not ds's) to identify the boys tomorrow.
Problem is DS now is scared of going to and from school because of the strange boys. I got a panicky phone call tonight as the boys were hanging round the high street which we had told him to go to avoid the park.
DS now tells me tonight that Boy 1 keeps threatening to show the texts to other teachers. I have told him not to worry as the school already know about them, and that he is just to tell the teachers about the verbal bullying that has been going on.
Along with all this ds doesn't really seem to have made any new friends. He has joined lots of clubs but just doesn't seemed to have clicked with anyone. I think he would have been better off going to the school by himself knowing no one.
I do understand these boys would not be happy that he got them in trouble
Really don't know where to turn to next as I really don't want to fall out with friends over children.