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Toddler shyness

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24601mary · 01/03/2021 20:28

Hi all
My recently turned 2 year old little girl has always been shy and reserved but recently she is going through a phase where she is very shy around anyone that isn't me. She suddenly went shy around her grandmother who we are bubbling with for childcare , though she did quickly get over it. But more upsetting for me, is that she has gone really shy around my husband , her dad. Before anyone jumps to the wrong conclusions , please don't read into this as being suspicious - I nearly didn't post this on here for fear that people would just jump to wrong conclusions here when I am genuinely wanting some advice, so please do continue to read further before commenting .
I am wondering whether it could be because my husband is working from home at the moment and he works such long hours , sometimes across weekends too, that he isn't really able to give any focused attention to her . She spends her entire time with me , and whilst I work two days from home, and she plays with her grandmother in the other room during that time, I still step away from my desk to do her naps and prepare her lunch.
My husband never has any one on one time with her because he is always working . And when he isn't working I think he just feels tired snd stressed. Maybe she is picking up on this and this makes her feel uneasy?
I have said to him that perhaps we can make more of an effort for him to have some one on one time with her whilst I pop to the shop , or busy myself in another room . I just worry that he is losing his confidence in his skills as a father and it's making him a bit nervous too as he doesn't want to make her upset .

Is this a normal 2 year old behaviour ? Is it a phase she will perhaps grow out of ?

Thanks so much for reading this far :)

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BunnyRuddington · 01/03/2021 20:56

I'm afraid that your relationship with your child usually reflects the amount of time, love, care and attention that you are willing to put in. If he's not doing any care and giving very little attention, your DD's behaviour is only natural.

She's still young enough for him to change his relationship with her into a more positive one though, if he's motivated to do it.

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