What do you DO for DISCIPLINE?

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I have read the pasta jar and associated 'methods'.

I think I am fairly oudated in my ideas of discipline - I have always given three-strikes-and-out, on the third counting to three and then PUNISHMENT

When young this meant I would place them firmly on the floor and say NO

When older it would mean place them in their room

I've only done this a handful of times, the both respond to NO now with terrified obedience

So - what works for you, and why? And why have you chosen the method you have?

Am in awe that the three strikes policy actually works for you....I end up saying no in manner of parrot to DS (17mths and arsey as hell with it atm) and then plonking him away from it all, to which he responds with awful shrieks like cat being strangled and then he hits me.....

i issue warnings, give an opportunity for them to apologise, if they don't, then they go on the naughty step. dd is good, she has only been on the naughty step a couple of times when she was younger and now she's nearly 6, doesn't ever really need disciplining atm. ds goes to the naughty step a lot, however, over the last month or so, he has started responding better to the warnings and more often than not, backs down, apologises, and then goes and does what he's asked to do (usually pick up the toy he's thrown in anger, he's 2 btw)

i suppose our way is a watered down version of supernanny, without all the skirt suit and glasses. problems arise when dh misses out the warning bit, puts ds straight on the naughty step, which just doesn't work dong it that way, it just ends in tears, tantrums and shouting (and thats just dh )

Same as you, MP, except that punishment (or consequence as I put it in my best PC voice) is varied.

After several embarrassing "Do that again and we won't go on holiday/have Christmas/ever watch telly again" moments, I try to keep the consequence realistic and logical.

So if they are squidging toothpaste over the bathroom (hmm - how did that example pop into my head, I wonder!), they have to clean the bathroom.

Counting to three
Doing what I say I will - always
Consistency of approach - bloomin hard but worth it. So, if you hear yourself saying no, don't do that (however minor) you have to follow up and make it happen
I use a naughty spot in extreme circumstances. Only if he throws something. I have only used it twice with fantastic results. I am not a fan of the naughty spot really but am quite surprised at the results. Will still only be using it for the really bad stuff though

Crookshanks I would put him out of the way so he can't get to me

If he did that repeatedly I woudl put him behind a baby gate or in a different room and shut the door

Is that too much? I don't know. I just CANNOT BEAR disobedient children

(I know that sounds Victorian, but it's honestly how I feel about it)

He's hitting me for a reaction as I can see that he's waiting for it - I mean a reaction, whether positive or negative is still a reaction for them so I'm trying hard to ignore it and when he sees he's not getting anywhere, he does stop but I tell you, the last few weeks he's turned into a little ball of anger! He had a mahoosive tantrum when out yest just because I took a wax crayon away to try and give him his banana!!

I am the same - dd gets away with very little, wherever we are. This gets Dark Looks when I am being strict in blardy Waitrose but I don't really care.

I use the naughty step,sometimes with good effect. Other times dd sits laughing and says "thinking, thinking" because I say to sit and think about her naughty behaviour!

I have tried the count to three but she just counts for me!

I let her get away with very little however. She does know when I mean no.

I use the naughty step. Sometimes I wonder if I use it for too minor an offence though? DD is great most of the time, DS less so (they are 3.5 and 2.5), and sometimes I think that I am a bit toooo strict.

On the other hand, though, I am completely at a loss to know what to do when they do something really awful/mean, when there's no point giving them a warning (because they are unlikely to do it again & therefore can't put them on the n step without a warning), but it is a bad enough thing to warrant some kind of discipline (eg ds hitting dd very hard with the remote control).

Sorry MP, that was a hijack of your question really!

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