My son is nearly 10, middle child of three boys.
We have had trouble with his behaviour since he was about 3 years old. He has tics, allergies and ADHD (the later diagnosed privately) and they won't medicate the ADHD until older because he can take the standard meds due to his tics.
He had a 2.5 hour outbursts the other night because he went to bed at 8pm, but he wanted to go to bed at 8pm.
In other words, it's over absolutely nothing.
He was calling us fucking cunts. Punching us, throwing metal toys at our heads with all his strength. Saying he was going to smash up our phone, smashes the house up, he's a danger to himself, and the rest of us. The police didn't want to know.
He's run away in the past.
Things we have tried so far
- CAMHS, waiting waiting still waiting
- Private diagnoses of ADHD who recommended the triple P parenting programme, at a glance that didn't seem to be the answer though?
- spoken to the school, who have referred us to child services, for a key worker, still waiting.
- paid for a private therapist that does NVR non-violent restoration. I stopped that after I was paying £75 an hour for her to tell me the way we handle his meltdowns and simmer him down is to walk away. (Tried that!) and do "whatever we felt would work at the time" TRIED THAT. As if we want his violent meltdowns to continue into the night.
-grounding him makes him worse
-any kind of punishment causes hours long of violent meltdowns.
We are desperate.
We have some money left from our house sale, it's not going to last long so I want to pay someone to help us, but who?? How??
We are in Brighton if that makes any difference whatsoever.
Please help us.