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Potty training not happening.....

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madame · 04/11/2007 09:41

dd 2+1 months, she started showing real interest in the the loo and potty about a month ago. I started taking it gently just putting her on the loo as and when she asked but she didn't ever do anything. Then she started pulling her nappy off at nursery and wanting to sit on the potty all the time. So I thought I would start her. I have done 3 days of the Gina Ford routine, no nappy, trying to sit her on it regulary but just no luck at all. I put the potty in every room she goes in, I try and get her to sit on it as much as I can as she doesn't always want to....
What do I do....do I continue or just accept she isn't ready. It is quite soul destroying not getting one in. Could I be mistaking enthusiasm with be ready?

It's also that all my friends are potty training and having great sucess and I can't help feeling a bit of a faliure....silly I know...

any words of wisdom...

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lissietothosefireworks · 04/11/2007 09:44

tah dah cods bootcamp! i used it and ds was trained in the week. dont put yourself under any unnecessary pressure tho, one day it will just click!

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madame · 04/11/2007 09:54

Sorry Listentothosefireworks I am not quite sure which bit I am meant to read, not completely proficient with this mums net lark yet

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lissietothosefireworks · 04/11/2007 09:58

this:

do nto plan to go anwywhere for a couple of days.

2 do nto put a nappy on ever agin

3 do not ASK your kid if they need to go fgs they ODNT KNOW hence they are potty training

tkae kid every 30/30 mins or so

bribe them wiht sweets

6 tyr not to use apotty as they are a pita but if oyu haev to do

7 if they wee on you firmly say " here do we go to the loo?"

make it a game

race them to the loo take them with you coutn how long they can wee fo ring up hapless freinds or relatives to tellt ehm algie did a wee ont he loo( oyu may have to warn folk!!)

REINFORCE ALL THE TIME how GOOD THYE ARER whent hey get it rihgt

is the important bit, i swear it works. have a look through the rest of the thread though, tis very interesting.
and welcome to mn

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madame · 04/11/2007 10:04

Thank you I will

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madame · 04/11/2007 10:17

anyone else have any thoughts, I really need to know what direction to go on this. I don't know how long to continue. Some people say if you continue and they are not ready then you can put them off

or is it a case of just hanging in there

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hunkermunker · 04/11/2007 10:27

Alternatively, do it Hunker's way, which involves going:

Meh, children do it when their ready.

Worrying a bit they'll never do it.

Fending off "isn't s/he a bit big to be in nappies?" from people who've been scraping cack out of pants for six months.

Having a child who is dry and clean immediately at 3ish.

If it's stressing you out, don't worry about it. I think there's too much emphasis on early potty training in this country and it's not right for every child. I appreciate Cod's boot camp method works for some children, and by all means try it, but if it doesn't feel right for you or your child, don't worry about it.

bubblagirl · 04/11/2007 10:27

my ds was taking him self to opoty at 2.3 was dry through day not at night he has speech delay so cant ask to go anyway so was great he just took him self

he is 2.6 back in nappies if they are not ready there not ready our problem was having to put nappies on to go out it bcame more and more untill he didnt want to go potty any more

he used to stand at toilet too which ws great still encourage him to we have smiley face chart not reward chart so if he sits on potty gets smily face wee or no wee

he found it really fun we'd sing wee wee on the potty or i would he'd try if he went we'd dance about he took himself from 2nd day of trying if she dont want to sit on no pressure

i had dolly and potty and praised dolly for being so big then he sat on wanting my attention too

we had potty in his bedroom cheap potty

potty chaitr in living room jst buy cheap piottys and encourage best you can leave no nappy on if wes on floor so oh dear we must go sit on potty for wee wee or do you want to sit on toilet?

and it is a case of not going anywhere and perservering but if no interest at moment leave it another week and just keep putting dolly on and saying what a big girl for wanting potty she may even ask to go again

i'm now waiting till his speech comes along will have to stay in till he can say wee wee when he wants to go then i can try no nappies while out GOOD LUCK

bubblagirl · 04/11/2007 10:29

sorry about spelling son was pulling me to get on comp lol

paulaplumpbottom · 04/11/2007 10:30

When my dd was on the potty I always made sure there was a distration like reading a book. That way there wasn't so much pressure

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madame · 04/11/2007 12:07

hunkerbunker, I have beentrying all morning and she just wee's down her legs. Its not thru being naughty or not wanting to use the potty, I just think think she genuinely doesn't know she needs to go. HOw long should I leave her before trying again

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hunkermunker · 04/11/2007 12:36

She's not ready by the sound of it.

Can you try giving her the opportunity to use the potty at nappy changes and before bed? Just take the pressure of "omg I HAVE to put her in pants 100% of the time" off both you and her.

lissietothosefireworks · 04/11/2007 12:39

agree with hunker, it doesnt sound like she is ready. she could have just been mimicking you (ds did that at around the same age)

Pruners · 04/11/2007 13:03

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lissietothosefireworks · 04/11/2007 13:11

with hindsight ds was VERY ready to be potty trained. i did follow cods bootcamp, but as she states, its no point trying if neither of you are ready.

FluffyMummy123 · 04/11/2007 13:31

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madame · 04/11/2007 19:53

Thank you

I have decided to stop for now. We have just had more accidents today and I have ended up feeling stressed and upset by it all.

Lissietothosefireworks, I think you were right when you said she was just mimiking me and not really ready.

Pruners, how do you think I will know? being a first time mum I just question everything and don't have much confidence in my ability.

I am just finding this age quite difficult all round. She is so demanding on me and I feel drained most of the time. Add something like potty training into the equestion and I am exhausted and feeling low....

Not a good day

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Pruners · 04/11/2007 20:03

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CeciC · 04/11/2007 20:12

Hi madame,
My advice is, when you decide to potty train, and take the nappy off, do not use a nappy when you have to go out. That just send mixed signals. I have been very luky with mine, withing 2 days they were dry, but I went to the beach, on my DD2 third day, and all I did is put a towel on the car seat, adn eveytime that we go out, I still take with me at least one clean pear of knickers and trousers, just in case we have an accident. Just keep the nappies for night time/sleep time.

stripeytiger · 04/11/2007 20:14

Don't think she is necessarily too young, just not quite ready by the sounds of it. I tried with dd when she was 2, didn't work, bloody disaster, tried again 6 weeks later when I was much more laid back about it and she was clean and dry in about 3 or 4 days.

Try again in a few weeks and you may be surprised. Good luck

stripeytiger · 04/11/2007 20:16

Just read CeciC's message and totally agree. Changing from pants around the house to nappies in the car or on outings is a sure way to confuse a child. Buy several cheap potties and always keep one in the car.

CeciC · 04/11/2007 20:17

Hi again madame,
I potty trained my two girls when they were 2.6, but I have friends that they had waited until their LO were almost 3. I will probably wait for a few months, but then when you decide to do it, go for it.
Good luck and just think, it's not a competition!!

smartiejake · 04/11/2007 20:20

Kids vary tremendously- DD1 was clean and dry by day and night at 2.6 DD2 was clean in the day by 3 but not at night till she was 7! As for going out- I found a travel potty v. useful. It folds up and has these little pads inside a bag that goes over the top. I think the one I had was Tommee Tippee.

sarahsails · 05/11/2007 17:10

I left it for ages (partly cos I'm lazy). He eventually started it himself at 2.10 when he realised his cousin didn't wear a nappy. It took about a week.

Don't worry about what other people do. Anyway it's a faf to have to stop the car/ find a suitable tree/ always bring a change of trousers/ rush to find the loo in restaurants/ parks/ museums/ trains. Have to return home after just setting out cos you forgot to ask if they needed the toilet/ get off buses quickly. I could go on.

Shame you can't keep them in nappies till they're 18 really

mimsum · 05/11/2007 22:11

you'll know when she's ready cos she'll ask not to be in nappies any more

so much easier cos then it's done and dusted in a day or two with no messy accidents either

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