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23 month old limited understanding and speech

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Shireenbabu · 22/02/2021 14:13

My son Is 2 next month and has improved slightly with few more words over the last couple of months but he doesn’t really understand or listen when you talk to him.
He can say around 13 words but only a few of those are used consistently such as car brum brum, duck, dog and go.
If you ask him something for example go and get the.... or shall we go to the park then he doesn’t even listen to you just carries on what he’s doing or ignores and rolls around.
He does understand simple commands such as give it to mama, give it to grandma, give mama a kiss or whoever a kiss then he will go over and do that. He also understands come here and if you say do you want a bath he will run to stairs. He will say the word at the end of a nursery rhyme such as twinkle twinkle little and then he will say star or hickory dickory and he will say dock.
He also is very physical, very good with fine motor skills, he’s very good at shape sorters, shape puzzles and starting to recognise colour matching, threading beads, stacking bricks.
He absolutely loves nursery rhymes and tv so this is of course limited but he gets so animated and happy when he watches those.
He loves pushing cars around different surfaces in the house, likes the pushchair wheels, loves pushing ride on cars instead of sitting on them.
He knows body parts- head, ears, nose, mouth, teeth, tongue, hands and feet and can touch those if you ask him and he’s in the mood to.
He also sticks out his tongue if you ask him every time.
He can do the actions to songs such as head shoulders knees and toes and wheels on bus but again if he’s feeling like it.
Absolutely loves water and baths would play all day long with water.
If he wants something he can’t reach he has learnt recently to say up so he will say up up up until you lift him up onto kitchen side then he will take what he wants, he doesn’t really point but I’ve taught him how to recently and will do it if you keep saying point point otherwise he will take you and drag you to what he wants. He does try to say what he wants but comes out gibberish.
If he wants the iPad he will say go go go and sometimes point if you remind him.
It just seems like he can’t get the words out what he wants to say but he does try to with lots of things and then he gives up and walks away.
Our only real concern is his lack of speech, the listening and the understanding because he appears behind his peers quite a lot.
He does have a hearing test booked for beginning of March but I would like to know if anyone else has or had a toddler like mine.
Any help would be much appreciated

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Shireenbabu · 22/02/2021 14:24

I forgot to mention he also doesn’t call us mama or dada but he knows who we are by giving things when told.

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Musingsandrevs · 23/02/2021 02:41

Please get your child screened by a pediatrician. Express your concerns and ask for a detailed assessment on those lines.

The sooner you know, the better it is to support and work with your child's deficits.

Musingsandrevs · 23/02/2021 02:42

I have a child like yours and he did get a diagnosis. Let me know what you find out and if you need help.

Wish you the best.

Shireenbabu · 23/02/2021 08:35

Thank you for the replies. Can I ask what diagnosis your child had?
It’s so stressful because in the uk there is a long list for speech therapy and it’s not even considered till after 2.5 years.
Everyday is stressful worrying why he’s not understanding properly.

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Musingsandrevs · 24/02/2021 02:13

He got an autism diagnosis, which is a spectrum! Good luck with your journey. Feel free to reach out if you need anything.

Tvscreen · 24/02/2021 17:14

My DS turned 2 in January and sounds similar but we have noticed he’s starting to speak in sentences and his vocab has come in leaps and bounds over the last two months.

He’s never been great at following instructions and I can’t figure out if it’s just him being determined to do his own thing or if he doesn’t understand. He doesn’t do sorting or threading like your DS but I’ve just put this down to him not being ready.

I think if you are worried there is no harm in discussing your concerns with your HV or GP. Best of luck!

Tvscreen · 24/02/2021 17:59

Ps having thought about this a bit more, apart from the vocab and DS’s sorting skills, your DS and mine sound quite similar. Mine loves cars and water will literally legit upstairs when we say it is bath time. Before he was 2 he regularly would just ignore me when I said time to do anything he wasn’t really interested in now he just says no. I’ve always put this down to selective hearing on his part.

I’ve heard language can take time to develop and I think it’s great your DS loves nursery rhyme and completes the sentences. Do speak to your GP/HV if you have concerns though x

Lil115 · 27/02/2021 00:57

Hi @Shireenbabu I have a 28mo dd who has recently been diagnosed with autism.
Great that you have got the hearing test booked in soon.
Maybe to start with see if you can request the 2 year check with the health visitor to be done now because of your concerns. This will hopefully give you a good idea of where your son is at on the typical milestones.
You can actually find the forms online and score them, but maybe best to get them done with a health professional. I’ll paste links below anyway.
There’s loads of good speech therapy techniques online - look for the book ‘More than Words’ and you can contact a free of charge line called iCan, you can have a call with a speech therapist who can advise you and send you some materials. Email [email protected] and ask for a call back.

www.delnortekids.org/uploads/8/2/8/1/82819108/asqse-2_24_mo_set_b.pdf

www.iow.nhs.uk/Downloads/Health%20Visiting_School%20Nursing/ASQ-3%2024%20Month.pdf

Jaydenmom · 08/01/2023 21:16

Hi @Shireenbabu may i know hows your son now.?.

mthrofflwr · 24/01/2023 11:05

@Shireenbabu any updates???

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Shireenbabu · 22/02/2021 14:13

My son Is 2 next month and has improved slightly with few more words over the last couple of months but he doesn’t really understand or listen when you talk to him.
He can say around 13 words but only a few of those are used consistently such as car brum brum, duck, dog and go.
If you ask him something for example go and get the.... or shall we go to the park then he doesn’t even listen to you just carries on what he’s doing or ignores and rolls around.
He does understand simple commands such as give it to mama, give it to grandma, give mama a kiss or whoever a kiss then he will go over and do that. He also understands come here and if you say do you want a bath he will run to stairs. He will say the word at the end of a nursery rhyme such as twinkle twinkle little and then he will say star or hickory dickory and he will say dock.
He also is very physical, very good with fine motor skills, he’s very good at shape sorters, shape puzzles and starting to recognise colour matching, threading beads, stacking bricks.
He absolutely loves nursery rhymes and tv so this is of course limited but he gets so animated and happy when he watches those.
He loves pushing cars around different surfaces in the house, likes the pushchair wheels, loves pushing ride on cars instead of sitting on them.
He knows body parts- head, ears, nose, mouth, teeth, tongue, hands and feet and can touch those if you ask him and he’s in the mood to.
He also sticks out his tongue if you ask him every time.
He can do the actions to songs such as head shoulders knees and toes and wheels on bus but again if he’s feeling like it.
Absolutely loves water and baths would play all day long with water.
If he wants something he can’t reach he has learnt recently to say up so he will say up up up until you lift him up onto kitchen side then he will take what he wants, he doesn’t really point but I’ve taught him how to recently and will do it if you keep saying point point otherwise he will take you and drag you to what he wants. He does try to say what he wants but comes out gibberish.
If he wants the iPad he will say go go go and sometimes point if you remind him.
It just seems like he can’t get the words out what he wants to say but he does try to with lots of things and then he gives up and walks away.
Our only real concern is his lack of speech, the listening and the understanding because he appears behind his peers quite a lot.
He does have a hearing test booked for beginning of March but I would like to know if anyone else has or had a toddler like mine.
Any help would be much appreciated

Hey shireen, hope you don’t mind me asking but did you notice any signs when he was younger/ under 1? Hoping you reply

from a worried mum x

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