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From Hair Pulling to Face Snatching

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LoriBee · 28/10/2004 15:15

My 2 year old ds has a lovely nature generally but went thro a spate of hairpulling with other children for a while. He's pretty sturdy and strong and it was a nightmare getting him to let go and obviously really painful for the wee souls he'd grabbed. Thought we'd overcome it or he'd grown out of it but now he's started grabbing out at faces. He hates going into his carseat and started hitting out when we were strapping him in but loves it once we're on the move but now he's doing it to other toddlers at our P&T group and other friends children. I'm so worried he will end up getting asked to leave or become totally friendless. We've tried time out, ignoring, naughty seat, turning snatches into tickles......He's our only child and is looked after by my parents (who he adores)a couple of days a week. He gets lots of attention, stimulation and affection and is very loving to toys and us (!) most of the time. Any advice or similar experiences?

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LoriBee · 28/10/2004 15:52

Anyone?? He's just scratched a wee friends face who is getting his photo taken tomorrow......Help!!

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myermay · 28/10/2004 16:18

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LoriBee · 28/10/2004 19:23

Thanks MyerMay. We've done the "gentle" thing too and it worked for a wee while, maybe we need to really re-emphasise this again. Good to know it worked for you.I just feel really caught between trying to keep it all low key and not making the fuss which he maybe likes and showing other mums that I am taking it seriously and don't condone this kind of behaviour.Why is he going for the face tho? I'm really uptight about my dh playing too rough with him and keep nagging him to be more gentle - dh thinks I want son to grow up learning how to knit and other safe, non-contact activities............. and why not I ask myself?! Thanks for your thoughts tho, I'll just persevere and hope its one of those many phases.

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vanessa13 · 28/10/2004 21:27

hi loribee
i totally sympathise with you.
i have a two year old little boy who is very loving but as soon as it comes to sharing with his sister he bites and even tries to strangle her. he is also at playschool and pinches and bites there. it is hard as you feel that the childrens parents look at you as if you are a bad mother, beleave me its more common then you think alot of children go through it. i have spoken to my health visitor and all she said was he will grow out of it and just overly praise him when he does something good. i know i havent given you any advice i just wanted to let you know you are not alone good luck

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