My DD and DS's fighting is driving me crazy - Help ?????

[yorkiemom]

Please help my dd6 and ds3 are driving me crazy. They don't play together often but this is mainly due to ds. He is very jealous of his sister, and is very rough with her. She has been quiet patient with him, but now its like a battlefield !!DS will pull her hair, smack her, try to bite her, and she will scream back at him, you get the picture.

We do put ds straight on the step to give him time to calm down more than anything else. He has such a fierce temper!! He then has to say sorry to his sister, which he does. Then ten minutes later it all starts again.I feel the naughty step is'nt working, and would be grateful of any suggestions, ideas to bring a bit of calm???

It is also a battle field in my house too. DS8 and DD6, youngest has always hated eldest getting any attention, if he sits on my knee she will push him off. Just a common case of sibling rivalry. It was the same with me and my brother when we were kids... DD has such a temper and the naughty stap doesnt work for me either, When DD had a tantrum (and occasionally still does) i just ignore it we all move into the kitchen or somewhere out of the way, it soon fizzles out. And the more they get ignored the less they bother to do it, try to reward the good behaviour and ignore the bad, explain to your daughter what you are doing so she doesnt think her brother is getting away with it all, she may even join in and help.
GOOD LUCK

Praising good behaviour and rewarding bad helps. I recently got a book called Siblings Without Rivalry, and am finding the tips in it quite tricky, but good and effective.

Thanks for your advise, will give it a try, but am feeling very down, as just got back from a shopping trip where ds was a total nightmare, slapped me around the face, bit me and kicked me, everyone in the shop looking at us in total horror !!!
Its so hard when you are out somewhere as you can't just ignore him until he calms down, you have to act.
Never mind large chocolate therapy needed (me not him !!!)
Thanks againx