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30 month old toddler not forming words - worried!?!?

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ajj2601 · 16/02/2021 11:00

My little boy is coming up to 30 months old and he does not say words apart from mama, dada and nana.

He has been babbling since he was about 8 months old but I have not seen much improvement since then. I will stress that his understanding is very good i.e. if we tell him to fetch his sippy cup or a toy he will happily do this for us. His gross motor skills are also fine, it's mainly the communication that is an issue.

DH and I are trying our hardest to encourage him to speak but it's just not happening. If he wants something he will either point, or take us by the hand and lead us to what he wants, which is usually food. He will not say what he wants and if we give him a choice, he gets very upset and starts throwing tantrums, which I guess boils down to the fact he is frustrated that he cannot speak.

He does mimic what we say and he is trying to repeat words when I talk to him, but it's mostly phonetic. For example, if I say dog, he says 'da' and 'ga' for cat. For longer words such as accident he says 'Ah ee Da' but then does not attempt it again. His hearing is fine as he is responsive to us but try as I might I cannot get him to talk.

At present he is in a childcare setting 3 days a week with other children his age and slightly younger who can speak. The childminder provides lots of activities but there has been no improvement with speech.

I referred him to speech therapy on the advice of a community nurse during his 24 month review (our new HV has only ever seen us once and makes no attempt to engage). It was a phone appointment when he was 28 months old and they could hear DS in the background. They could understand my concerns but did not make any suggestions apart from continuing to engage with him and ruled out autism. They said to contact again if there was no improvement within 3 months.

I'm at a loss as to what to do to openly encourage him to speak. We read to him loads, use flash cards, sing nursery rhymes etc but for the most part he just wants to run, climb or spin (rotation schema has been present since he was very little). I will add that he was very late with crawling (24 months), getting up to stand (22 months) and climbing (25 months) so maybe I should expect that he will speak later too.

Has anyone had a child in the same situation? When did they finally start speaking and what did you do to encourage it?

Sorry for the long post, just trying to cover everything we have done to help him out!

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FortunesFave · 16/02/2021 11:42

He certainly doesn't seem to have any signs of Autism. My nephew was similar...took a long time to speak at all and when he did he was over 3. I was very concerned but SIL wasn't...and she was right because by the time he was 4 he wouldn't stop.

His catching up was very fast...he went from "ba and da" to "I want a drink" very quickly.

He hasn't got a tongue tie has he? A missed one?

ToddlerQuestions · 16/02/2021 12:01

I was also going to say tongue tie, they can also sometimes re-form once treated.

ToddlerQuestions · 16/02/2021 12:02

Posted too soon! OP, I was also going to say it sounds like you’re doing everything you can be. I don’t have first hand experience of this but I’m sure someone will.

ajj2601 · 16/02/2021 15:34

@FortunesFave I don't believe he has a tongue tie as he never had issues with feeding and he had his mouth checked when he had suspected tonsillitis a couple if years ago (which came back negative)

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Burtrix7 · 16/02/2021 22:37

My little boy had very disordered speech and made similar sounds when trying to talk. He missed the beginning and end sounds of words and even then the sounds he did say were pronounced incorrectly. Is there any way you can afford private speech therapy? It was a life saver for our little boy and even now 2 years down the line we are still paying for fortnightly sessions online whereas he has very little support from the NHS. We aren't a well off family but have been fortunate enough to scrape by. It's really hard.

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