Hi all
So I have 16m twins. I know they are still young but snatching is day to day and causes stamping of feet, hitting the toy box/head. Basically frustration! This has got progressively worse over the past week and I really don't know what to do. So...
Twin 1: She's the oldest, the one who likes morning cuddles and has her special rabbit by her side. She laid back, content and twin 2 is the love of her life. She can be mardy but can self soothe
Twin 2: Youngest but feisty. 16m going on 16yrs. Loves twin 1, has always got her back and knows how and what makes her happy. She's usually busy being independent and doesn't give a shit or take shit really.
So said rabbit is in the cot at night time. Twin 1 throws it over to twin 2. Cries her eyes out until either she pulls it back through the bars or twin 2 will throw it back over. In the day twin 2 is so bad at snatching that twin 1 just looks at me for help. I used to go over and say no give it back and try distraction etc but now just ignore it and say to her well take it back. Sometimes she does, succeeds, sometimes she throws a paddy, sometimes she walks off, sometimes my son (who's 3) decides to take it upon himself and take it off twin 1 and give it back
Anyway...
What do I do? I feel awful ignoring it as I don't want either of them to be upset but I don't want to be a referee. I want twin 1 to be able to stand up for herself and not do this ear shrieking scream and then look at me for help every time something is snatched. I know babies don't do it maliciously and they haven't got the capability to share yet but is there anyway I can get twin 1 to stand her ground a bit more?
Awake at this ridiculous time as twin 1 threw rabbit over the cot and the shriek woke me up. She's now fell asleep without it as twin 2 has laid on it. In all fairness she shouldn't have thrown it over then should she?? Out of ideas tbh
Thanks