Nursery concerned 3yo ADHD?

[Lauren83]

First time posting in this section but looking for support.

I have a 3 year old son who has been in nursery since he was 6 months old, he has met all his milestones on time and is very confident sometimes overly so, he will chat to everyone including strangers asking them questions and introducing himself. He is very much a handful, he will not sit still ever, he won't play with toys he just throws everything and tips everything out, you have to wrestle him to get him dressed and he won't walk alongside you, he will try to run into the road for example, if you let him walk in the supermarket he will try grabbing things off the shelf's and throwing them. He is also very clumsy and trips all the time.

Nursery have flagged this and have someone in to assess him as they want him to have extra support, due to Covid they have to film him and send the videos to an external team

Has anyone had a similar experience or have any pointers on what we can be doing to help him

My DD is 12 and was diagnosed with ADD last year. It's really fortunate that your son is being noticed so young....getting it early is how you help them best.

Saying that...my nephew...I clearly remember him being as you describe at this age and he sort of grew out of it. Not saying this will happen for your son but it is possible.

3 is very small still...I hope you aren't worrying too much. My dd is a happy, sociable child who thrives at the things she enjoys (don't ask me about the things she doesn't enjoy lol)

Thanks for replying, I'm glad to hear your DD is doing well, I am glad they have flagged it and when they asked us to go in discuss if I think they were being very cautious incase we got defensive but like you say I'm please they are having him assessed so young, we have a 20m old too so as you can imagine it's a struggle

They don't diagnose ADHD until 6 unless it is also with ASD. The reason being, as the last poster stated, a lot of it is typical toddler behaviour and they can grow out of it.

Extra support is always good whether a diagnosis comes or not.

Thankyou, we did put it down to normal toddler behaviour for a long time and hopefully it may just be that. Hoping they can work with us to get a plan in place to help him get ready for school

Youngest DS identified and diaognosed by 2 by tier 3 CAHMS after being on the CDC’s radar for many months.
Picking it up early was a good thing. It meant he had a formal statement of educational needs, funded portage till he had a place in a specialist nursary from 2 1/2, input from anything he needed and full support of CAHMS, Ed Psychs and all. The ASD was not picked up till later as the severity of his ADHD masked pretty much everything.
He moved from special education into mainstream with support by 4 1/2 and was happy in primary- even if his IEP included being able to go outside and run around the playground for 10 minutes for every five he manage to concentrate on working. He was identified as G&T by yr 1.By yr 5 his activity had settled into fidgeting and being allowed to go out to run when he got too frustrated. Completed secondary inc’ sixth form. Went onto do a higher apprenticeship and degree.

From personal experience and from knowing other families whose kids did not get picked up until after they had started to fail in school - if it is ADHD its best picked up early. If its just normal sparky toddler behaviour that extra support will not hurt. If ADHD is there that support can allow a kid to begin to learn coping stratergies and skills that bring out the best bits of having an ADHD brain whilst supporting it where it struggles. His sister was an utter nightmare in secondary till she got to sixth form. Finally found the perfect work environment for her ADHD- she works in A&E in resus.

This sound exactly like my 4 year old he’s so confident will talk to anyone he loves attention.. he started nursery sept 2020 and it was not good I feel he doesn’t know how to interact with other children even tho he went to a lot of play groups before he started nursery but I always noticed he would play on his own.. he started grabbing some of the other children when he wants to play instead of him asking he will tap then on the head with a book or try and play fight with them.. the nursery reduced his hours from 3hrs a day to 1.5 hours hoping that cutting the beginning and the end out where he is more likely to hit the children.. he doesn’t like being told what to do either Altho he has got better with that. He’s such a loving little boy and he loves everyone it breaks my heart to think the teachers don’t like him. my husband thinks I’m crazy and hates me keep talking about it.. they also have asked if they can get someone in to assess him which we have agreed to.. I am so stressed and anxious about him going back next week..