I can't cope anymore

[angrybird101]

My DD is usually so loving, happy & easily entertained. But when she has a tooth coming,she is honestly uncontrollable. Constantly screaming/whinging/crying from 5am until bedtime. Snatches things, hits me, bites, throws things, I can't leave the room, won't eat, won't nap, nothing is good enough. & it's making me depressed. My DP can't cope & loses his shit with her which really upsets me. We argue as we're both tired, fed up & just in a vile mood from 5am. Surely this can't be normal. I haven't stopped crying for 2 days. My anxiety through the roof. I can't sleep. Honestly feel like I could run away. I don't know whether you take her to the dentist to check if they are coming through properly? Because her behaviour that comes with teeth is honestly shocking. Something can't be right.

How old is she? Either way she's a baby and she's teething and in distress. Yes it's normal and you're only going to make her more distressed and miserable shouting at her. She can't help it. I know it's annoying and yes it does grind you down to say the least but it doesn't sound like she's going through anything more than what most babies go through tbh. Stop putting any responsibility on your baby to not be a pain in the backside, stay calm and offer love and comfort. Practically things I found helped for mine were dummy, cold carrott sticks and bikkipegs and paracetamol. If she was awful I'd give ibuprofen too but avoid this too much as it can slow down the actual teething process. It gets better I promise. Just jeep going x

Thank you @Jannt86 you are right. And I do try so hard not to get stressed and shout but sometimes it takes over me and I just feel like I could run away 😭 most days though are wonderful it's just the teething days are unmanageable. But you are right, I need to work on my stress levels etc xxx

Do you put bonjela on her?

@angrybird101 I’m so sorry if this sounds patronising but have you tried infant nurofen as opposed to calpol? It worked so much better for my Lo! We also have big meltdowns during teething time especially back teeth!

I have honestly tried everything lol thank you though xx

@angrybird101

Thank you *@Jannt86* you are right. And I do try so hard not to get stressed and shout but sometimes it takes over me and I just feel like I could run away 😭 most days though are wonderful it's just the teething days are unmanageable. But you are right, I need to work on my stress levels etc xxx

I understand OP and it's so hard atm especially with lockdown. I think you need to look at whether you and your partner need support though as if it's not teething it'll be something else and we have to find coping mechanisms as parents. If she's having a bad day then just try and take the pressure off. Have snuggles. Put cocomelon on all day. Think about what YOU would want if you were feeling crap and try and replicate that for her. Whatever it takes. It's better than getting angry at her xx

Sorry you are going through such a hard time. Advice that teething doesn’t cause babies pain or cause them to cry is insulting! I’ve had horrific days where I have cried louder than baby. It’s so difficult not to take it personally when baby is being so difficult. The fact you haven’t ran away is the important bit here. The main thing is to relieve her pain and the tension causing her behaviour. If she is in serious discomfort, then regular doses of alternate paracetamol and ibuprofen spaced throughout the day? A cold wet muslin cloth to suck on that’s been in the fridge? Bonjela on a muslin to run across the gum? Cucumber to munch on? Would you resort to a dummy for these difficult times? Oral pain relief is really the only effective way. Hope I haven’t told you something you already know

@Cockermummy88 thank you very much just to hear support is really good enough. so thank you xx

A frozen green bean was my daughter's favourite teether (well, a couple minutes out of the freezer, but still pretty solid).

During the day, I'd also try distraction as much as possible (along with the pain relief, teethers, etc., not instead of). What are her favourite activities? Do lots of them if you can and she seems up to it – if that means lots of playing in the bath interspersed with snuggles and screentime or endless readings of 'That's not my giraffe', so be it for a few days to get you all through.

You don't say how old she is, but if you can stay calmer (easier said than done, of course), you may find that calms her some as well –she might be reacting to your upset as well as her own pain. When I'm struggling, I find it easier to put myself on a loop repeating the same soothing thing over and over or singing something I know well – it lets me mentally step back and give myself a teeny bit of space.