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Toddler hitting himself, pulling his hair out and head butting things

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ToddlerConcerns · 04/02/2021 10:03

Hi,

I'm beginning to have concerns about my toddler.

He is 19 months old, he is friendly and sociable, shares toys/attentions, smiles and laughs, cuddles, gives kisses, shows affection. He can walk, run, climb well. He's doing ok developmentally from what I can see, he has about 10 words and can do animal noises from you saying the animal or from seeing a picture. Can build a tower, play with Duplo and connect it properly, plays with toys in the right way as in knows what's part of a set etc. He's obsessed with diggers, cars and vehicle toys/videos, gets so excited by them.

My concern is what I've wrote in the thread title, it's not always when he's angry, just now we were reading a book and he suddenly pulled a load of hair out his head for seemingly no reason. He does have a bad temper, gets very annoyed if he tries to do something and he can't, and will hit himself in the head, headbutt things or pull hair out when angry and sometimes when he doesn't seem it. If I google it it just flags up autism but I don't notice any other traits.

I haven't seen a health visitor for well over a year due to Covid, I'm just a bit worried I'm not seeking help and he might need it. Can anyone give me any guidance on whether this is usual toddler behaviour or if this needs looking into. I'm a first time mum and don't really know what I need to do.

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ToddlerConcerns · 04/02/2021 10:59

Anyone please?

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ToddlerConcerns · 04/02/2021 13:41

Bump...

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Whirlwind14 · 20/02/2021 02:26

My now 3.5 yr old went through a head banging phase from about 12m- just before 2. It really concerned me. If he was cross he’d lie on floor and bag his forehead.

As he got older (and realised it hurt!) during a frustrating moment or tantrum he’d actively look for something soft to do it on, like the sofa, rather than the floor.

I spoke with the HV several times and she wasn’t too concerned, particularly if he wasn’t constantly banging and not feeling the pain. Apparently it can be a soothing mechanism, as well as a way to get out frustration.

We just moved on to the next phase....!!

Try not to worry

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