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10 month old not sitting up independently

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Cockermummy88 · 03/02/2021 06:39

Really looking for support here☺️.
My 10 month old boy isn’t sitting unaided. He went for a dermatology appointment and a paediatric consultant was brought in due to him not sitting up (the derm consultant was concerned about this). His head measured out of proportion with his body and now he has been referred to physio and for and MRI scan. We had to have bloods taken that day. It was an awful shock. Until then I could convince myself he was a late learner. Now I am beside myself with worry. He loves playing on his belly, however I have been worried for months about him not sitting/waving/pointing. I’ve just had that “feeling” for a while. I raised concerns a few times with HV and GP but was told to wait and see. If I hadn’t have gone to dermatology that day, I wonder how long I would have been fobbed off for. It just goes to show, you should follow your instinct and not take one “professionals” opinion. Fingers crossed for my little boy.

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DuaLipaSuction · 03/02/2021 22:43

So sorry that you've been fogged off but glad you it's being investigated now.

Has he been referred to a Paed too? If not, I'd push for that as he probably needs assessing Thanks

Esse321 · 03/02/2021 22:53

Surely ten months isn't late for waving/pointing? and erm my DD's head was on the 75th centile and her height/weight was on the 9th, she doesn't look out of proportion or anything.

DuaLipaSuction · 03/02/2021 23:09

Esse I think anything after 9 months is considered late for sitting? Even if it's not it's probably a good thing that it's being investigated given the OP's concerns.

As for the head size, it could just be local genetics Smile

Esse321 · 03/02/2021 23:44

Sitting yes - I was referring to the OP saying she was worried about not pointing / waving, hope all is okay OP

DuaLipaSuction · 03/02/2021 23:45

I was referring to the OP saying she was worried about not pointing / waving,

Absolutely agree, it's much too young to be worried about those points Smile

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Cockermummy88 · 04/02/2021 06:41

Thank you. I suppose once there’s a big worry, you start inventing new problems through paranoia. The pointing and waving can wait, but I would do anything to wake up and have him sit. Yes, he has been referred to a consultant for further investigations.
I’ve started the thread, and I’ll keep revisiting for updates. Too many times I read about other people’s concerns, but they don’t come back with the outcome🙂anyone else who has gone through this please share.

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DuaLipaSuction · 04/02/2021 07:52

Have they give you any indication of how long it will take to see the Paediatrician?

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Cockermummy88 · 04/02/2021 08:47

I’ve got no idea on the timelines. That part is killing me! I left the hospital shell shocked and with so many questions. It’s annoying how they come flooding to you once you’ve left the building.

A little more info about myself, I’ve been suffering with PND. The guilt of not making the most of my boy is quite painful. I hope it doesn’t take a horrible diagnosis for me to realise that I did love him more than I thought I did. I’m already realising how my world would fall apart if he was to suffer. This will either make me or break me! I hope I can come back to update with brilliant news☺️

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Esse321 · 04/02/2021 09:06

My little boy was delayed - he didn't speak / communicate until 3-4, but not with gross motor skills, it was a worrying time. Have you tried a bumbo seat?

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Cockermummy88 · 04/02/2021 10:47

We were tempted but then advised that they stop messages between brain & body on how to control movement & balance😒. No equipment, just some fun toys and the floor will do! That would have saved some money if we knew a few months ago. Hope your little boy is doing well now☺️

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DuaLipaSuction · 04/02/2021 16:26

I’ve got no idea on the timelines. That part is killing me! if you know the name of the Paediatrician, I'd call their secretary and see if they have any idea on waiting list times. Also make it very clear to them that you are willing to be seen at short notice.

DuaLipaSuction · 04/02/2021 16:28

Have you tried talking to the PANDAS Helpline too Cocker? They may help you with your PND and feelings of guilt Thanks

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Cockermummy88 · 05/02/2021 20:05

I am being looked after by a perinatal psychiatric team. I will look at this link too, thanksSmile There is a big issue that needs to be raised for lockdown babies and mums, who aren’t receiving the care that they need. Our red book is practically empty. It hasn’t helped with anxiety levels knowing that no one is prepared to see your baby in person.

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Scummy0mummy · 07/02/2021 20:44

Hi @Cockermummy88 I'm so sorry to hear what you have been through X yes always trust you're instincts and push to be seen by the health service. I have been fobbed off so many times (myself and DD). My DD didn't sit independently until 10 months if that's any comfort. Some kids are just later at these things. I hope your mood is improving X it must be so tough for new lockdown mums, I feel for you all.

Scummy0mummy · 07/02/2021 20:45

Also, that's great that he enjoys playing on his belly!

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Cockermummy88 · 08/02/2021 14:20

Thank youHaloIt has been the saddest time for me. No body in my family has held him, seen him playing or having his breakfast. Just the simple things we take for granted. We have had a referral through to the child development centre, it is in a couple of weeks. The waiting will soon be over and we can start to see what we can do.

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Cockermummy88 · 14/02/2021 21:58

So LO started to crawl last week. Just shuffling around small distances commando style. He’s only using one arm to push himself forward, and his legs are sort of scrambling about. This week he is moving forwards in the same way but a little more efficiently and he’s covering a lot of mileage! It doesn’t solve our problems, but it means he is learning new skills and has the capability and intention of “getting about”. Really happy. Still waiting for an appointment to come through.

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wellahair · 14/02/2021 22:52

My DS didn't sit unaided at 10 months too. We couldn't tell if he was able to or not because as soon as we put him on his bottom, he rolled over and just crawled. I think it was 11 months where he actually sat.properly. Pointing isn't concerning until after 18 months. My DS started pointing at 16 months to share interest and just at 19 months he used it properly to request things. Of course, get it looked at op but also don't panic.

Scummy0mummy · 15/02/2021 14:41

Great news!

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Cockermummy88 · 15/02/2021 15:39

That’s the problem we are having..maybe he’s a super active boy. But he does flop to the side after a few seconds and he would allow himself to fall and bang his head, it doesn’t seem there’s much control over what he is doing there. Thanks for the reassurance whilst we wait. It does help to know he’s not the only oneSmile

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k2331 · 15/02/2021 23:28

Just here to send you support 🌸.

I had a really similar situation - my HV and GP kept ignoring my concerns but I just felt there was something. Eventually, at 10 months old (he was really behind developmentally) I did get someone to listen to me and they agreed to investigate (MRI and bloods). So for my LO, we did actually receive a diagnosis which worried me at first but having that meant he could start getting the help he needs (physio, OT etc). Early intervention is the best thing so you're in the right place now. Chances are there's nothing and most things I read when I was where you are now (to add I also struggled with PND) suggested most babies do just catch up and get there in their own time! If like me, you do get a diagnosis of something/anything then you'll be referred to whatever help your little one needs. RE your other comment, it's a really good sign that he's starting to move around. Probably just doing things his own way in his own time!

Just wanted to let you know how it went for me as I used to read posts like this a lot and also felt that not many came back with the outcome.
Xx

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Cockermummy88 · 16/02/2021 06:52

This is just what I was looking for when I posted, thanksSmile. Experiences from others and real outcomes. People like to reassure you by saying they all will get there. But they aren’t with him on a daily basis, and he has been late on other milestones too. They are all individuals and it’s hard to compare situations, but in a world where we are cut off from everyone it can be helpful and comforting to share. It feels like I’m doing “something” when I have no other control.
Having to push so hard for a HV to just come and visit us when I’ve had concerns for months is really hard to deal with. Sending you and your little boy best wishes! FlowersThanks xx

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k2331 · 17/02/2021 10:57

@Cockermummy88 yes exactly. That's what I struggled with most when I was at the stage you are now - I just couldn't find someone to tell me they had been through it and then tell me what had happened.
I have had the worst experience with my midwife but you know your baby and you keep pushing for what you need. Thanks and sending you lots of love! Sounds like you are doing a great job xxx

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Cockermummy88 · 03/04/2021 21:22

We have had MRI results back-they are fineSmile! Brain and spine both scanned and no findings there. So relieved, but now we are being referred to a specialist who can look at rarer muscle disorders. Also still waiting for chromosome test result but rest of bloods and urine fine.

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k2331 · 03/04/2021 21:32

@Cockermummy88 brilliant! Such a relief for you all that the MRI results are fine x